> As expected, this is the top comment
That's because it's a good comment.
> men and women have different criteria, but that is completely irrelevant
No, it's not at all irrelevant, because the fact that fewer women choose STEM fields has been used to design a narrative about the causes when the evidence does not actually support that narrative, and in fact the simplest explanation is simply that women prefer other fields, and therefore choose these fields unless other pressures override those preferences.
> Women in STEM complain that they have less job prospects and feel uncomfortable in their positions.
Citation needed. All we have are (a) individual stories, read anecdotes, not data on actual problems occurring and (b) hard statistical data on the distribution.
These two independent facts are woven together to create the narrative that (a) is systemic, for which there is no evidence and the cause of (b), for which there is also no evidence.
(I am assuming you mean either "all women" or "women in general", rather than "some women")
The only actual data I am aware of was a survey by the ACM a while back[1]. It showed few if any significant differences in job experience, socialization and attitudes between men and women.
The differences it did find were "supervisor support, career related", where women reported slightly higher support, and "comfort with technical language" and "confidence in technical skills" where men supported slightly higher levels (but still not huge).
Motivation for entering the profession were also largely the same, with men supporting slightly higher for "love of technology/computers" and women reporting slightly higher for "ease of entry into profession", "job security" and "flexible working hours".
And of course there's the Ceci/Williams study showing a 2:1 hiring advantage for women in STEM fields (academia).
>Women are interested.
Yes, some are. But not very many. In fact, most people in general aren't that interested in STEM, it's a minority occupation.
> Many that do are forced out for one reason or another
In a big survey, the biggest reasons for leaving were "spend more time with family", "lost interest", "no advancement" and "didn't like daily tasks".
Again: you are being duped by the narrative. Neither the science (see article) nor the other data back this narrative.
[1] https://cacm.acm.org/magazines/2008/2/5453-women-and-men-in-...