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Why kids first, spouses second?
Because they, as parents, are entirely responsible for the kid's very existence. Adults are, to a large degree, responsible for themselves, much as we may love them.
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#12I am more of a builder than a pure entrepreneur, so YMMV. I quit my job when my son was seven months old, took a month off, then went back to work three days a week. I'm a stay at home dad the other two. Eight months later, this seems very, very easily to have been the best decision I've ever made.
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#13Kids come first! Spouses second. Computers third. I'm sure you already figured that one out but I still have to remind myself periodically when I'm in to something interesting so I figured it wouldn't hurt to repeat it. Get up an hour or two before your kids do so you can get some work done when you're still fresh (assuming your kids don't get up at 6 am :) ).
Why kids first, spouses second?
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Because they, as parents, are entirely responsible for the kid's very existence. Adults are, to a large degree, responsible for themselves, much as we may love them.
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If both me and my kid needed a kidney you think I'd let my husband give his kidney to me? Second priority != neglect
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#15Such a relevant topic, as we're expecting our first child any day now! I have a feeling having reduced hours free will cause me to really focus on being productive in those hours and focusing on the work that truly matters.
Re: Ask HN: Tips for Hackers having Kids?
#16I am more of a builder than a pure entrepreneur, so YMMV. I quit my job when my son was seven months old, took a month off, then went back to work three days a week. I'm a stay at home dad the other two. Eight months later, this seems very, very easily to have been the best decision I've ever made.
This is looking like a similar option for us, I'm doing pretty hefty hours between startup & fulltime employment at the moment (although we are profitable). So just need to get the timing right, but definitely looking forward to more flexibility with schedules.