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It's funny, I don't see it on the list but by far the biggest taboo in SV in my experience is talking about things going badly. You're doing great, killing it even, or you should keep it to yourself.
There's a big difference between ideas that weaken minorities, and ideas that weaken majorities, because you get blowback for different reasons. When you attack minorities the people that get upset with you, are people that are worried that weakening an already weak group is a bad thing. When you attack majorities however, you get blowback from the people that are afraid to lose their power. I agree that there are pr…
Why weaken anyone? It isn’t zero sum. The free market has nothing to do with minorities or majorities: people don’t care about the race of a person selling them bread — they just want the cheapest bread at the highest quality.
My S.O. thinks that transgender thought poses a threat to feminist aims and should not be acceptable to society, and has some really good arguments. I'm starting to be convinced, but I really can't discuss it with anyone else. edit: goodnight as its getting late.
Your S.O. seems like a bigot. I would certainly like to promote such peoples' freedom of speech - so that I know who they are and so that I can exercise my freedom of association to not have to interact with them. Edit wow advocacy for free speech, freedom of association, freedom of thought, freedom of expression and peoples's right to be themselves is very unpopular of hacker news today... Weird.
Yes, it did seem that way at first. I had a hard time of truly listening when we first began to discuss it as I had already formed my own standard, liberal, opinions about the topic.
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> should not be acceptable to society So .. what level of violence against transgender people does this justify? Or is the hope that they can be bullied into suicide so you can pretend it's their fault?
None. I don't mean current transgender people should be outcast, but we should begin to understand its external effects. They too are victims of stereotype. They chose (perhaps felt forced to chose) to change their body to fit the stereotype. But the problem with being unable to discuss this is that people who are beginning to question their cis identity may not see the other option: being yourself in your own body,…
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How did you write that without realizing how oxymoronic it is? Were you trying to be an example of: "people who have deep bias against people for intrinsic things"? Besides your suggestion that prejudice doesn't exist in the north (lol), you're writing from the Pacific Northwest, one of the least diverse places in the country. Oregon is 83% white; Texas hasn't been that white since 1970, currently 45% non-Hispanic wh…
The assertion seems to be that racism -- perhaps even a specific manifestation of racism -- is more prevalent in the south than in other areas of the country. Not that everyone in the south is racist , or that everyone in the north isn't. Perhaps you would like it if even this more carefully worded thing was something people didn't say. If so, it'd probably be interesting to unpack why. Also, I'm not sure that geogra…
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if it were acceptable, my s.o. would have a blog post about it that I could just link you to Not to deny your lived experience or anything but (purely for the sake of providing a reference for discussion and not taking a position either way) TERF content is widely available on the Interwebs.
I can't find any because I don't know what TERFs call themselves (the term appears to be solely used by their detractors). Maybe my google-fu is lacking, but it seems to be hard to find. When I google things like "transgender and gender existentialism" I get only (unsatisfying) rebuttals and some poorly-thought-out complaints about trans people. I think my s.o.'s viewpoint is a little more nuanced than "trans women a…
I didn't actually know that, interesting.
Maybe my google-fu is lacking, but it seems to be hard to find
It's entirely possible that your fu is fine and this material is pushed down the index as a matter of policy.
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Your S.O. seems like a bigot. I would certainly like to promote such peoples' freedom of speech - so that I know who they are and so that I can exercise my freedom of association to not have to interact with them. Edit wow advocacy for free speech, freedom of association, freedom of thought, freedom of expression and peoples's right to be themselves is very unpopular of hacker news today... Weird.
> Your S.O. seems like a bigot. Yes, it did seem that way at first. I had a hard time of truly listening when we first began to discuss it as I had already formed my own standard, liberal, opinions about the topic.
Stop listening and start getting away.
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None. I don't mean current transgender people should be outcast, but we should begin to understand its external effects. They too are victims of stereotype. They chose (perhaps felt forced to chose) to change their body to fit the stereotype. But the problem with being unable to discuss this is that people who are beginning to question their cis identity may not see the other option: being yourself in your own body,…
isn't that what non binary is all about? I see trans folks talking about non binary gender all the time.
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if it were acceptable, my s.o. would have a blog post about it that I could just link you to Not to deny your lived experience or anything but (purely for the sake of providing a reference for discussion and not taking a position either way) TERF content is widely available on the Interwebs.
I can't find any because I don't know what TERFs call themselves (the term appears to be solely used by their detractors). Maybe my google-fu is lacking, but it seems to be hard to find. When I google things like "transgender and gender existentialism" I get only (unsatisfying) rebuttals and some poorly-thought-out complaints about trans people. I think my s.o.'s viewpoint is a little more nuanced than "trans women a…
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isn't that what non binary is all about? I see trans folks talking about non binary gender all the time.
Yes, but that acknowledges there is a binary in the first place. You're still saying that cis (which is the default, no matter how much anyone wants it not to be) women should be feminine.
EDIT: new words were invented just to enforce it. Some of the "nicer" ones for women are tomboy and butch.