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Re: Ask HN: How did you meet your spouse?

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Post by partisan »

l33tbro wrote: post #12
partisan wrote: post #9

I met her on a trip during senior year of high school and I pretty much was smitten from the moment I saw her. We were playing cards and she was my partner though we didn't know each other. She talked some serious trash and was super confident and smart. After the 4 day trip, she went back to her boarding school and we wrote letters back and forth (the 90's were so quaint) with the occasional long distance phone call…

Very sweet. I'm interested particularly in the 'growing back together' caveat. I'm soon to marry, and hope to keep to the path of open communication. But it seems easier said than done once responsibilities pile up and free time becomes scarce.

It is true that once life happens (kids, work, health), it can be difficult. I don't have the answer. My marriage is in a different place on the success spectrum every day and I don't think it is such that you can set it and forget it. You know where success is: open communication. Use that as your compass when you lose your way. You've found the person you love so you are halfway there.

Some pessimistic advice for the other readers who maybe aren't that far down the path of commitment:

- Don't get married if you are the type who always needs something better. I hope this is self-explanatory.

- The same if you can't find contentment/happiness in yourself. Another person can't give you that.

- Don't have children to save a marriage.

Re: Ask HN: How did you meet your spouse?

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Post by darreld »

I was an F-15 electrician in an aircraft maiantenance outfit in the Air Force. She came in as a jet engine mechanic and we got close. At that time I was just getting interested in 8-bit computers (Atari). When we were newly together she would sit next to me and read BASIC source code listings for me to type in for hours out of Analog and ANTIC magazines. If that’s not a keeper I don’t know what is. That was 35 years ago and she’d still do it if I asked.

Re: Ask HN: How did you meet your spouse?

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Post by bkohlmann »

My ex girlfriend (it had been a few years!) set us up via email. I was in San Diego and she was in Austin.

I was an f/a-18 flight instructor at the time out of Miramar, and coincidentally, the scheduling officer. I found a student who needed a cross country training mission, and requisitioned a jet for the weekend to complete the students training...and also meet this girl.

Thing was, our jets were always broken, so they rarely let us take them more than one leg away from home base. Austin was two legs.

I went into my executive officer and told him my plan...then mentioned I’d be meeting a former Miss Texas. He instantly signed off.

So, in many ways, I have all of you fine tax paying citizens to thank for meeting my future wife.

When I arrived in Austin, we had a (normal) oil leak which got all over my flight suit, so I smelled terrible. Fortunately it didn’t phase my future wife as she met us on the tarmac.

We dated for 4 months, then we’re married 4 months after that. We’ve been together 5+ years and have 2 kids now.

Re: Ask HN: How did you meet your spouse?

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Post by quickthrower2 »

bkohlmann wrote: post #43

My ex girlfriend (it had been a few years!) set us up via email. I was in San Diego and she was in Austin. I was an f/a-18 flight instructor at the time out of Miramar, and coincidentally, the scheduling officer. I found a student who needed a cross country training mission, and requisitioned a jet for the weekend to complete the students training...and also meet this girl. Thing was, our jets were always broken, so…

"Take my breath away" on many levels

Re: Ask HN: How did you meet your spouse?

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Post by pascalxus »

vinchuco wrote: post #32
pascalxus wrote: post #22

I met my wife on match.com After using at least 5 different dating sites over a 10 year period, one of them finally paid off. for all the single guys out there, looking for a GF, here's the strategy. Write a script to copy and paste an intro paragraph and message (make sure to customize it to the profile) every girl you can possibly find, that meets your requirements. It's just a numbers game, the more you play the l…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uYQWAdAbdfA

lol, that sums it up.

Re: Ask HN: How did you meet your spouse?

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Post by mrdependable »

My friend's girlfriend at the time liked me enough that she wanted to set me up with one of her friends. She described her as "gorgeous" which I took to mean the exact opposite. A little while later they invited me to go on a hike with them and some other friends of theirs, and what do you know, the girl she wanted to set me up with was there. Her friend wasn't lying, she was gorgeous, to the point that I was pretty intimidated. I immediately wrote it off and thought, "What the hell was my friend's girlfriend thinking, her friend would never go for me." As the hike went on, I overheard her talking about a band that I liked so I jumped into the conversation. We ended up talking for the entire hike and I was pretty fascinated that we had so much in common as that rarely happens.

After that day I kept thinking about her, but the thought of her being interested in me seemed too far-fetched. Then out of the blue her friend says that, my now wife, asked her to pass her number to me. The rest is history. We've been married two years now and have a daughter together.

Re: Ask HN: How did you meet your spouse?

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Post by jasonkester »

On the beach in Thailand.

I was living on Tonsai for the winter rock climbing season. She came out to do the same about a month after me, arriving on New Years day. I struck up a conversation and we sat on a log and watched the sunset.

A couple months later, I abandoned my idea of working North through China and instead followed her to Australia where we bought a cheap van and spent another month or so surfing. Eventually I followed her home and we've been together ever since.

Every New Years, we make a point of ending up on a West-facing beach to watch the sunset together.

On the 10th anniversary of meeting, we flew ourselves, our kids, and as many of our friends as we could convince back to that same beach and got married as the sun set.

A bit sappy, I know. But feel free to appropriate it if you and your spouse ever need a better story.

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