"Older developers of HN, what are your experiences?"
I'm 43.
When I was younger and first started out 20+ years ago I put in easily 50-60+ hour work weeks ,but only billed the client for 40.
I was young , hungry to learn, and loved the feeling I got when I accomplished a project or tackled something new and complicated. It was self rewarding. It was not a job or even a career , it was a feeling that wow somebody is actually paying me to do something I fully enjoy.
At 43 the only thing that has Changed is my ability to put in that extra time.
I was married young and in college as well, but with no Child. At 35 we had our first child and my father had a stroke not too far after that.
My responsibilities at home raising my Son and taking care of my older parents has consumed most of my free time.
While it has not impacted my area of expertise, It has impacted my ability to stay up to date with all the latest and greatest technologies.
Even when I was younger I always had a "learn as a needed" mentality and was able to quickly adapt. That hasn't changed nor my desire to learn new things.
However, what has changed is that I have become selective on which technology "I need to learn". I also can't afford the risk to take a pay cut to jump on a new cool technology when I'm making good money , in my current industry.
Having said that now I fantasize about retirement , but not to retire. I fantasize about that extra time and financial freedom to work and learn on the FUN projects I want.
I have always wanted to get into the robotics industry to improve the quality of life for elderly people and children. I love the software and hardware intermingling and actually seeing the physical result, versus just software virtual results on the screen.
Its something I fantasize enough about , that now I'm looking to purchase a new home with the space to build my lab (mwahahaha).
In regards to ageism, Yes , I have seen it and would say its far more prevalent then the other 'ism' in the tech world.
Luckily for me I don't really look like my age and can still pass for my 30's and have worked with the same clients for 20+ years, even after switching companies.
However on paper its another thing, and something I definitely worry about if I have to change jobs or clients.