The worst accusation is that he put his hand on the ass of a married woman. Now, should have done that? No. That wasn't a nice thing to do. He had a few drinks and got a bit too bold. If true, does he deserve to be trash talked at brunch with the girls? Sure. It's certainly something that he should reflect on and be more cautious next time. Should we take seriously the claims of "PTSD-like" symptoms based on having a man touch her ass and then do nothing when she got in a cab and drove away? Well, are women adults? One hundred fifty years ago, the thinking was that women were too emotional to make adult decisions, and so they shouldn't be entrusted to do things like own property or vote. Over the years, we've come to agree that women and men are equal. I personally think that this is a good thing, but the power of adulthood and citizenship comes with responsibility. Catherine Shu is asking for sympathy and vengeance as if she were a child. Obviously, if some random venture capitalist woman were to grab a journalist man's ass after a couple of drinks, there would definitely not be a TechCrunch article about it.
If women are children, we certainly should not entrust them with positions of responsibility in corporations, and I would not hire a child at an equivalent level of pay to an adult for an engineering role.
So, it's really women's choice. Do you want the power and benefits of being an adult, or do you want the protection and coddling of a child? Personally, I'm OK with either, but we need to get this straight before we hire a bunch of children to do important work.