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That is why many people have life insurance. It's probably not common in large parts of the world, and requires a certain income level to pay for, but it can make a situation where a parent dies a lot easier to cope with, at least the financial worries go away, or at least are delayed. In my country (New Zealand) we have a government run, compulsory, insurance scheme for accidents and death. If you die by accident th…
When does the risk increase to a point where it becomes suicide and the insurance doesn't pay out?
Two days in an underwater cave running out of oxygen
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> Given the choice of having a father at home or have one dead in cave but famous for exploring cool places I don't think it's hard to guess what most children would pick. In all seriousness, I do have a hard time guessing which one most children would pick. I can see reasonable arguments made on either side. Personally, I think it would be far more inspiring to have a father who died pursuing his passion, then one w…
Whenever we ask children what they want from their families they always say they want to spend more time with their parents.
Except for those who hate their guts. Or those who distrust them. Or those who are bored by their lifestyle, possibly relevant to this topic.
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#273I might be speaking out of line, but taking on these kinds of risks with young children at home seems kind of selfish. The fact that he went back into the same cave that nearly killed him only a month later...almost as if to say: "I would rather my kids grow up without a Dad than live without my adrenaline fix" I am neither a father or a cave diver though, so I might be missing a piece of the puzzle. Would either gro…
Or maybe what he's saying is, "I would rather my kids learn that they should explore and enjoy the world, rather than never take any big risks." There are a lot of parents in the world. Once you start judging them (for actions other than abuse and neglect), you very quickly realize how limiting that is. Do we need to look down upon astronauts who have children? What about pilots? People who travel for work for days o…
"Judging" is a bit of an overloaded term. I don't think it's OK to call someone human trash for having a risky hobby.
I do think people can say, "You're better than this. Make better choices."
One version is dehumanizing someone for their behavior. The other is (when phrased well) constructive criticism.
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It is not really that risky. It was just an unfortunate accident. It is probably way riskier to practice road cycling or breathing air in a big city(because of diesel particles pollution). This man has been doing this for 24 years, if something diving today with him is safer because of the experience he got. There are extremely risky sports like B.A.S.E, jumpsuit skydiving or freestyle motorbike stunt. This is not th…
> You don't see people around telling smokers: You have children, you should not take risks like this. Not exactly true. If you are in the US in a big city in a blue state, politicians and police say that, but for a slightly different reason.
So, they don't say that?
Re: Two days in an underwater cave running out of oxygen
#275I might be speaking out of line, but taking on these kinds of risks with young children at home seems kind of selfish. The fact that he went back into the same cave that nearly killed him only a month later...almost as if to say: "I would rather my kids grow up without a Dad than live without my adrenaline fix" I am neither a father or a cave diver though, so I might be missing a piece of the puzzle. Would either gro…
I am a father and I agree 100% IMO maaaaybe you could be married with no kids and do this ethically. But with kids? You're rolling the dice on a very important promise. I do struggle with what that line of thinking means for soldiers though.
The line of reasoning for firefighters and police officers is likely similar (though IMO the risks in these professions are far more manageable because you're not literally surrounding yourself with people who try to kill you).
In the end I think it's a good thing we talk about these decisions at all and I hope it has not only to do with women (and thus mothers) entering these professions.
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That doesn't sound right. How many cave-going dads are there that you could make the claim? And do a majority of kids believe their fathers are boring? I just don't buy it. And is taking a risk like this the best way to be "not boring?" Definitely don't buy it. You can have fun and be adventurous without taking heavy risks. It's fair to say that someone who continues to put himself at harm is foolish in one capacity…
I don't think it is possible in the literal sense to have adventure without risk.
I'd say taking a sabatical, walking the country asking strangers personal or "deep" questions is an adventure and a risky one, yet you don't risk your life more than by just commuting to work.
I guess risks depend on the country, but are comparable.
Re: Two days in an underwater cave running out of oxygen
#277I might be speaking out of line, but taking on these kinds of risks with young children at home seems kind of selfish. The fact that he went back into the same cave that nearly killed him only a month later...almost as if to say: "I would rather my kids grow up without a Dad than live without my adrenaline fix" I am neither a father or a cave diver though, so I might be missing a piece of the puzzle. Would either gro…
It is not really that risky. It was just an unfortunate accident. It is probably way riskier to practice road cycling or breathing air in a big city(because of diesel particles pollution). This man has been doing this for 24 years, if something diving today with him is safer because of the experience he got. There are extremely risky sports like B.A.S.E, jumpsuit skydiving or freestyle motorbike stunt. This is not th…
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I'm not really sure what you are saying. "drop everything" is hyperbole - just drop the things with a higher chance of killing you.
Your comments are a good reminder of why HN needs a per-submission limit on the number of comments a single user can make. Yes, you've shared your point. Now you're dominating the discussion by responding to everyone with the same exact moralizing comment.
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I'm a caver and I have several cave-diving friends and I think your risk assessment is off by some way. There's maybe a couple of hundred active cave divers in the UK. I guesstimate been a cave-diving death every 5 years or so, so with a bit of guessing we could say your chance of death is 0.1% per year. There were 1,732 road deaths in the UK in 2015 and 45.5 million licence holders. Assuming they all drove at least…
Cave diving in the UK is totally different to the Florida scene. There is almost no overlap in skills and equipment.