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Americans Are Wary of Being Alone with the Opposite Sex

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Re: Americans Are Wary of Being Alone with the Opposite Sex

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Unfortunately, potentially compromising situations are the best way to get things done. If you want to avoid other people, you're going to be spending a lot of time at home by yourself, so to speak.

The majority of survey respondents seemingly disagree. Also, you argue a false dichotomy.

Not at all. I'm just positing that to interact with someone means risking social interaction that you don't want – serial harassment, for example. The only surefire way to never be securely harassed is to never talk to anyone.

You shouldn't do that, of course. But one-on-one meetings are extremely useful in many lines of work, and are also a time when you're likely to be accosted. This whole article is about how a ridiculous fraction of people polled think co-ed one-on-one meetings aren't kosher.

Re: Americans Are Wary of Being Alone with the Opposite Sex

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Shops in the US can't do like a number of highly-productive British businesses where schoolyard banter is a sign of mutual ball-busting and mental toughness.

Simple rules for men to follow in American businesses:

1. Don't hire women unless nearly all men in the business are nonbrogrammers or married.

2. Don't schedule 1:1 meetings with women in secluded offices or meeting rooms.

3. Don't ask women personal questions, hit on them or do anything else to make women uncomfortable. Basically, stick to business topics like a robot and then still walk on eggshells.

4. Don't hire SJWs, jerks or uncool people of any sex or gender. SJWs can still sneak in looking for excuses to attack people based on stereotyping because of their involuntary membership in various identity groups whom "must be attacked."

Re: Americans Are Wary of Being Alone with the Opposite Sex

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post #19

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The majority of survey respondents seemingly disagree. Also, you argue a false dichotomy.

Not at all. I'm just positing that to interact with someone means risking social interaction that you don't want – serial harassment, for example. The only surefire way to never be securely harassed is to never talk to anyone. You shouldn't do that, of course. But one-on-one meetings are extremely useful in many lines of work, and are also a time when you're likely to be accosted. This whole article is about how a ri…

Generalization here isn't very useful. One-on-one meetings are often very useful, regardless of gender. But there are risks. One party may fear assault, and another may fear false accusation of assault. And even without intentional assault or intentional false accusation, there's enormous potential for miscommunication.

Self-awareness and prudence are the answer, I think. Don't meet one-on-one with someone until you know them well enough. Well enough to judge their intent. Well enough to get a sense of their communication style.

Re: Americans Are Wary of Being Alone with the Opposite Sex

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Shops in the US can't do like a number of highly-productive British businesses where schoolyard banter is a sign of mutual ball-busting and mental toughness. Simple rules for men to follow in American businesses: 1. Don't hire women unless nearly all men in the business are nonbrogrammers or married. 2. Don't schedule 1:1 meetings with women in secluded offices or meeting rooms. 3. Don't ask women personal questions,…

"1. Don't hire women unless nearly all men in the business are nonbrogrammers or married."

Discriminating in hiring based on sex is illegal under US law.

And if you've already hired a bunch of employees who are not likely to be able to work with women, you've probably made some very poor hiring decisions.

Re: Americans Are Wary of Being Alone with the Opposite Sex

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One thing that looks interesting from the data is that women censor man-women contacts more than men. Of course women who are more open to these connections as well can get a huge benefit in their business life (which may incur a cost in their private life, like not having time for those ,,women only'' parties).

Can you explain why you think working with men (but not working with women) makes it difficult for women to socialize with each other?

I wrote ,,as well''. It's about not having sex of the other person as the deciding factor for a business connection (or any non-sexual connection)
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