Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

Modern evidence based therapies such as CBT are a way to avoid problematic repetitive thinking and too much introspection, and are a way to focus concentration on more positive thinking.

Current NHS figures suggest about 60% success rate, and that's on a bare-knuckle minimum provision model.

>I am a mid 20s white male who has been afforded immense privilege in life.

Stop right there.

You've been brainwashed by SJWs in the so-called 'educational' establishment into believing that you somehow have some magic 'white, male privilege'.

It's utter nonsense. They've been psychologically abusing you your whole life, harping on about 'racism' and 'sexism' and 'diversity' and 'tolerance', while condemning you for the color of your skin, your gender, and tricking you into buying their schtick.

Get redpilled. Read Vox Day's _SJWs Alway Lie_. Reject the SJW message of hate for white males!

Perhaps you like thinking and that's the only thing you presently want to do. If not agree, is that you think that you propely want something specific, but if that were the case these problems you refer to would not be appearing, your will would hush them away automatically and focus you on the external blockers.

I am a 30 year old, "first generation Mexican-American" who has had to work incredibly hard... from manual farm labor to today's creative tech/entrepreneurial world... for my current immense privileges in life. I have been analytical and overthinking; to the point of pausing and deciding daily whether the over-priced almond chai latte barista will mangle my full name or I should shorten and anglicize it.

I'm not outwardly extremely confident, but have been able to mostly get what I want. I've started a lot of things and messed up my fair share. It's past 2am, I'm in my workspace/studio jamming on personally fulfilling work with an amazing 40-week pregnant wife and four year old sleeping two floors above me.

What does self-destruct mean to you? Self loathing? I am genuinely wondering if lack of clarity, doubt and direction in your life are the real issues. If so, I'd like to say that every year since my 20s I've felt the same... and, I'm inwardly extremely confident about where I am in life. Time heals, maybe it's clarity through maturity. Perhaps a mentor would have been useful. If, like myself, you haven't had the fortune of one then seeking someone to talk to, a friend / colleague / professional, would be beneficial.

Also read up on Borderline Personality Disorder and codependency. After you become educated on these conditions, the way that "SJWs" act will suddenly make much more sense. The gaslighting, projection, self-loathing, hair-trigger emotions ("triggering"), malleable/distorted/missing sense of personal identity, and compulsive lying, which are all underlying issues caused by early childhood traumas and bad/neglectful/abusive parenting, are BPD hallmarks.

The overwhelming desire to help others, coupled with feeling responsible for the way that others feel at all times, are codependent traits.

The interplay between people with these conditions on the internet has turned into what most recognize as "SJW-ism" -- BPDs make ridiculous and unreasonable demands relating to their condition, and the codependents enable and validate them.

Congregating on the internet and using social media to attack and belittle both themselves and others is a way for people with BPD to cope. What they really need is dialectical behavior therapy, but it is extremely difficult to convince people with BPD to seek treatment, since the vast majority of them refuse to believe that there is anything wrong with them.

Some will have fleeting bouts of clarity, where they'll accept that they have issues and will consider and maybe even begin treatment, but most of them will stop attending sessions and cease their medication.