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Re: Ask HN: Is your company (job) family friendly?

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Post by sctb »

Ascetik wrote: post #54
tburmeister wrote: post #51

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#masculinitysofragile

#brainwashedcuckedliberal Not for me cause I would never do it. But men who do are beta cucks who let their wives steamroll them on everything then end up getting divorced and lose everything while she cheats on him. But it's his fault cause reasons. Traditional gender roles have been the back-bone of civilization for thousands of years, when you try to change the natural order into some progressive bullshit you get…

This is not a rose garden of a thread, but we have to ask you to please not call names or comment unsubstantively. We're hasty to ban accounts that continue on like this.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Re: Ask HN: Is your company (job) family friendly?

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Post by jstandard »

Mz wrote: post #49
usaphp wrote: post #33

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How do your kids adapt to social interactions with kids of their age, spending 24/7 with your family might be tiring and in young age there is a big difference between 3 and 5 year olds, I think they need to interact with kids of their age and different cultures to be better adapt in future life, that's just my opinion, I might be wrong?

I am a former homeschool parent whose oldest will soon be 30. You are entirely wrong. Homeschooled kids typically have stronger relationships and better social skills.

I'll need to make the decision about homeschooling in a few years. Do you have any studies you can share that support that conclusion?

At face value, it seems more difficult to socialize children than at traditional school with hundreds of daily social interactions from a wide variety of backgrounds, personalities, and teamwork opportunities.

Re: Ask HN: Is your company (job) family friendly?

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Post by Mz »

jstandard wrote: post #72
Mz wrote: post #49

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I am a former homeschool parent whose oldest will soon be 30. You are entirely wrong. Homeschooled kids typically have stronger relationships and better social skills.

I'll need to make the decision about homeschooling in a few years. Do you have any studies you can share that support that conclusion? At face value, it seems more difficult to socialize children than at traditional school with hundreds of daily social interactions from a wide variety of backgrounds, personalities, and teamwork opportunities.

No, I do not have studies. Tokenadult https://news.ycombinator.com/user?id=tokenadult might have something like that. He worked in public schools for many years and ran/runs the website Learn in Freedom, one of the early pro homeschooling sites (http://learninfreedom.org/).

My knowledge of this is rooted in having been involved in the online gifted homeschoolers community. I was briefly Director of Community Life for The Tag Project. http://www.tagfam.org/ So, you can take my word for it as a SME or you can contact Tokenadult and see if he can hook you up.

I do think your assumptions are in error. Good socialization is not about a wide variety of superficial relationships. It is about having positive interactions that teach one what one needs to know. I do know that studies show that kids who go off to boarding school do best if they figure out how to artificially replace the natural family unit with a close group of caring friends. But I don't have links to anything. That is just remembered off the top of my head.

Best.

Re: Ask HN: Is your company (job) family friendly?

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Post by marksc »

Mz wrote: post #49
usaphp wrote: post #33

Earlier quoted context omitted.

How do your kids adapt to social interactions with kids of their age, spending 24/7 with your family might be tiring and in young age there is a big difference between 3 and 5 year olds, I think they need to interact with kids of their age and different cultures to be better adapt in future life, that's just my opinion, I might be wrong?

I am a former homeschool parent whose oldest will soon be 30. You are entirely wrong. Homeschooled kids typically have stronger relationships and better social skills.

Not after adjusting for wealth.

Re: Ask HN: Is your company (job) family friendly?

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Post by Mz »

marksc wrote: post #74
Mz wrote: post #49

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I am a former homeschool parent whose oldest will soon be 30. You are entirely wrong. Homeschooled kids typically have stronger relationships and better social skills.

Not after adjusting for wealth.

I am not quite sure what you mean by that. Care to clarify?

Re: Ask HN: Is your company (job) family friendly?

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Post by nakedsushi »

I've been lucky that most of companies (all startups) I've worked for, while not explicitly stating its family-friendly policy, have been very family friendly even without them explicitly saying they are.

First one was 7 people when I first started and grew to ~150 while I was still there. Normal 9-5 work hours, but flexible if I needed to take off early or head in late because of traffic. I ended up working the last 3 years at the company remotely because HQ moved to a different city. At that time, I had a baby, took ~ 3 months maternity leave, come back at 3 days a week remotely, then full time remotely, and as long as I got my job done and was there during 'core hours,' had a pretty flexible day. Yes, it helps that the CEO also had young children at the time, but I think it also helps that he was a decent person and we had decent people as managers who understand work-life balance.

My startup job after that was for a smaller team, still a startup, but still pretty flexible in terms of taking off early to beat traffic, pick up kids, coming in late b/c of drop-offs, etc.

My current company is more traditional, but I still leave at a decent time, WFH a few days a week, and is generally very family friendly.

In general, I think being able to stick up for myself in terms of carving out personal time and setting boundaries or expectations of when I'm working is what's been successful for me. Also, making it clear that if they don't respect that I want to be home to have dinner with my family, I'm not gonna be a happy camper. It also helps that I'm good at my job and IMO a valuable player on the team.

Re: Ask HN: Is your company (job) family friendly?

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Post by DougN7 »

jstandard wrote: post #72
Mz wrote: post #49

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I am a former homeschool parent whose oldest will soon be 30. You are entirely wrong. Homeschooled kids typically have stronger relationships and better social skills.

I'll need to make the decision about homeschooling in a few years. Do you have any studies you can share that support that conclusion? At face value, it seems more difficult to socialize children than at traditional school with hundreds of daily social interactions from a wide variety of backgrounds, personalities, and teamwork opportunities.

I suspect keeping kids out of toxic (Jr High) environments totally compensates for them interacting with fewer people.

Re: Ask HN: Is your company (job) family friendly?

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Post by nunez »

sparrish wrote: post #11

I was working for a company that was moving from remote work to full-time in the office. My former co-worker and I decided to start our own company so we could stay remote and close to our families. I have 7 kids, he has 8 and we both homeschool. That was almost 6 years ago and I've never regretted it. If you value time with your family, nobody is a better boss than you. It's not unusual for me to shoot an IM over to…

Why did you have seven kids? Not a ding against you; I'm just curious. (I personally do not like kids and, at this stage of my life, would never do this.)

Re: Ask HN: Is your company (job) family friendly?

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Post by sparrish »

nunez wrote: post #78
sparrish wrote: post #11

I was working for a company that was moving from remote work to full-time in the office. My former co-worker and I decided to start our own company so we could stay remote and close to our families. I have 7 kids, he has 8 and we both homeschool. That was almost 6 years ago and I've never regretted it. If you value time with your family, nobody is a better boss than you. It's not unusual for me to shoot an IM over to…

Why did you have seven kids? Not a ding against you; I'm just curious. (I personally do not like kids and, at this stage of my life, would never do this.)

Having a big family is a lot like owning a Harley Davidson motorcycle - if I have to explain, you wouldn't understand.

My wife and I like kids and believe children are a blessing from God. They are a joy to be around and I learn from them and from teaching them.

Plus somebody's gotta take care of my sorry self when I'm old.

Re: Ask HN: Is your company (job) family friendly?

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Post by nunez »

sparrish wrote: post #79
nunez wrote: post #78

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Why did you have seven kids? Not a ding against you; I'm just curious. (I personally do not like kids and, at this stage of my life, would never do this.)

Having a big family is a lot like owning a Harley Davidson motorcycle - if I have to explain, you wouldn't understand. My wife and I like kids and believe children are a blessing from God. They are a joy to be around and I learn from them and from teaching them. Plus somebody's gotta take care of my sorry self when I'm old.

lol Fair enough!
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