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Maybe more men should consider it, "especially if their [wives] make a living wage."
Being a stay at home dad is emasculating.
#masculinitysofragile
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#52I worked at Aflac for over five years. I was not in the IT department, but they do have one. From what I gather, they are pretty cutting edge, tech-wise, for the insurance industry. They have a good track for being family-friendly and generally diverse.
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#53Probably depends on your friend's location and the number of companies he's interviewing with. I'm single, but at my company (at least on my team) the start and end hours are pretty flexible as long as you're getting work done. For instance, I generally get in about 10-15 minutes before 9AM, and then I can usually leave either around 4:25PM or 5PM (depending on which train I'm taking back home) and I'll take a 30-60…
You are doing 9 to 5 and being allowed to eat. Where is the flexibility? That's normal office hours. As a manager I considre flexible to allow people in or out or WFH as long as they put some solid hours every day and deliver. If it works for the project and the company allows it I have no problem with WFH. I've met too many managers who say they have flexible schedules when they mean "sure, go home an hour early tod…
Well, not really? A full time day is typically 9 hours with one hour of unpaid lunch and maybe two 15 minute breaks (at least I think that's the California law). What I described is basically an 8 hour day including a lunch break. As far as WFH, I mean, the poster didn't mention that explicitly.
If it comes to that, for my team we can WFH if needed without advance notice and if anything comes up during work hours we're able to leave for the errand or need, even for an hour or two, without being required to "make up" the time per se. As long as we are getting work done, etc.
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#54Earlier quoted context omitted.
Being a stay at home dad is emasculating.
#masculinitysofragile
#brainwashedcuckedliberal
Not for me cause I would never do it.
But men who do are beta cucks who let their wives steamroll them on everything then end up getting divorced and lose everything while she cheats on him. But it's his fault cause reasons.
Traditional gender roles have been the back-bone of civilization for thousands of years, when you try to change the natural order into some progressive bullshit you get the horrid state of society we have today and unhappy families.
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I agree, which is why I upboated you. My wife is a stay at home mom. Makes life way better for all of us, much less stressful for the children and she enjoys it. I wish more women would consider it, especially if their husbands make a living wage. Life isn't all about money.
Fuck that. I make a living wage too, tyvm, and I like my career. Why shouldn't the dad be the stay at home parent?
I used my winnings in the dot com explosion to be a stay at home Dad while my less financially successful wife worked. It was awesome; I think men in general need to try harder than women to forge a really strong connection as parents, so stay at home Dad => parenting equality, all else being equal. I was part time for few years also. Work of course hated it and it was hard to re-enter. I don't regret it of course, and kids are older and my time at work is creeping back up. Now I can do tech work sitting next to them doing homework. The kids tell me their problems and at least listen to my arguments for being the person that knows the most math in the room, regardless of career.
There were sacrifices but a lot of the worries I see expressed about work life balance don't really worry me. With the strong connection to the kids, I can feel how they are doing: I have that mother's sense of can I work late tonight or do I need to focus on the people. I feel the parenting skills also have made me more effective at work, both in cutting out useless activities because my time is sacred and in seeing the non-verbal emotional sides of people. The idea of how people can have trouble saying certain important things and how to respond to that happening is essential when dealing with kids and useful when dealing with engineers. So I highly recommend staying at home for men that have the capacity for it. (It is hard and you have to be almost totally self driven; no one will thank or notice what you do).
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#56It would be helpful to add a maternity/paternity leave column to your great spreadsheet. Staggeringly, the United States still lacks a national unpaid leave policy. Plus companies in other countries on your spreadsheet might offer additional leave than what is required.
Amen.
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#57I'm working at the most family friendly company I've ever worked for right now ( http://planning.center ). We're very remote friendly, which is a big plus. They pay for my whole family's healthcare (even though it's just my wife and I right now). We have a "family week" every year where they pay for our S.O. to come with us to an in-office week (and we're welcome to bring kiddos) for a week in town where they keep th…
Can confirm. My cousin started working onsite, but transitioned to remote at Planning Center. Seems like a nice setup.
PS, I'm Kin's cousin!
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Fuck that. I make a living wage too, tyvm, and I like my career. Why shouldn't the dad be the stay at home parent?
I used my winnings in the dot com explosion to be a stay at home Dad while my less financially successful wife worked. It was awesome; I think men in general need to try harder than women to forge a really strong connection as parents, so stay at home Dad => parenting equality, all else being equal. I was part time for few years also. Work of course hated it and it was hard to re-enter. I don't regret it of course, a…
You qualify for my personal Real Manly Man Award (TM). ;)
My father was a two time veteran and purple heart winner who never changed the diapers of any of his own kids, but stayed home to care for his first born grandchild when my brother got divorced and got custody.
My family of origin is really, really big on the idea that kids need a full time caregiver. Not so much on the "it needs to be the mother," which is humorous because my parents' marriage was so very old fashioned for so long that no one would have predicted that grandpa would stay home while grandma kept working.
#yougoguy #fistbump
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Seems about right. My company is HQ'd in (typically family friendly) Utah (I'm in Seattle office) and the CEO is a family guy. The culture has pretty healthy expectations.
I always think this a naive view. There are plenty of ways to be incredibly sleep deprived without a child.
You have to make a serious effort to be as sleep-deprived as a new parent. You could sign up to have the CIA torture you, for example. But unless you're being kept awake by guys with guns, or you have fatal familial insomnia, you've got nothing on the parent of a newborn. Especially a newborn with colic.