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I've never tried Tinder or any of those apps. Never really saw the point....
My suggestion would be to work out and improve your confidence. Good luck!
I'm assuming Seattle has similar demographics so that might be part of the problem for the OP.
What are you doing in the gym? From the point of view of aesthetics, doing cardio etc is basically a waste of time. Focus on lifting weights and building muscle.
I'm reliably informed that being 1. Muscular 2. Not fat and 3. Stylishly dressed will put you ahead of many men physically.
The only way you get to meet new people as you get older is by making a concerted effort to participate in events and to try and make a wider group of friends in general.
All you talk about is what you look like and then you claim to be looking for a serious relationship. Relationships are not just for good looking people and although women can be just as shallow as men, they generally have a different set of biases about looks than men have.
Here is a secret that many people seem to fail to grasp: A relationship is based on relating. In order for that to happen, you need to be talking to people -- and not on tinder. That's a hookup app. It isn't likely to lead to marriage.
You need to get a social life. You need to learn to talk with women just because they are human beings and not because you met them on tinder. You need to learn to let them decide what they like about you. If they have a problem with your baldness, then the answer is "Shallow bitch. NEXT!" and stop wasting your time. Not every woman will care about that.
A good place to start is to get some hobbies, as other people are suggesting. Or even strike up conversation with people at the gym -- and not in a creepy "You are a girl, and I am only talking to you hoping it will lead to sex" kind of way. Just talk to people. That is the absolute first step in establishing any kind of relationship at all to anyone on the planet.
My advice: get married. Find a match maker or a professional match match making service. You're 31. I don't know what point in the West (and now more in the east as well) it became normal to be unmarried in your 30s but it's really unhealthy from a mental health point of view. At this rate you're likely to get married in your late 30s (which isn't bad but it isn't for everyone I think). So my advice is get serious and get married ASAP
Ask her about what she is reading. Talk about the article you are reading. Try to look for a common bond.
That is how my husband met me 17 years ago. Worked for us!
Good Luck. PS bag tinder, go find real people in real places that you like.
Let me recommend you something really fun: Improv classes. I took only a 6 weeks class and it was great. 1) You'll be forced to be out of your comfort zone, which might be one of the reasons you are not meeting people: its comfortable not to (I've been there). 2) You'll be performing truly ridiculous acts, in its hilarity you'll likely form some bonds with the other students. Take the advantage to go for some drinks…