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SE asia. Seriously. You can probably get a 15/20 there but only a 7/20 here.
It might be true but that's still not a good advice, you should rather ( if you know how ) advice him how to make it 'here' instead of 'there'.
Another important thing is to make sure you have good posture and confidence in your words. Make sure you stand up straight when walking but relax your shoulders lest you look like a police officer. And when talking to people in general (not just women) don't be afraid to show confidence in what you're talking about, be specific and upfront if you don't know something about a topic, and assert yourself in a conversation when appropriate. Also don't be afraid of silence in a conversation, it gives people in the conversation time to reflect on what was just discussed and possibly come up with another topic.
Lastly, the best way to meet other people -- dating and a significant other is important but friends are probably more important in the long run -- is to find activities that you would enjoy and meet them through that. If you like or are interested in tennis, dancing (ballroom, Latin (salsa, bachata, tango), swing), swimming, hiking, etc., start doing them and see if you want to keep with it. Specifically for dancing, there are generally not a lot of good leaders (men) so if you get good you'll get a lot of attention if you progress and Seattle is a good city for specific kinds of dancing like Argentine tango. And don't forget to build friendships on the lookout for a relationship; I do believe that friendships are at least as important in the long run than a relationship so do not forget to build them along your journey.
(Also as another commenter suggested, Tinder is not a good platform to find dates virtually. Okcupid is a better free service. I've heard positive things about Match.com but haven't tried it.)
Goto meetup groups and start meeting people with the same interests as you. One of those new friendships might blossum into a relationship, or more likely you'll meet someone through one of those new friends. Otherwise dating sites or apps.
Goto meetup groups and start meeting people with the same interests as you. One of those new friendships might blossum into a relationship, or more likely you'll meet someone through one of those new friends. Otherwise dating sites or apps.
And yet I've heard lots of women don't like it when advanced are made on them when they are at Tech meet ups.
Also, tech meetups are probably different all around the world, but here in NZ they are not the right place to be hitting on people or even making friends really. I was thinking more along the lines of meetups which were non-tech related, like exercise meetups, meetups around films or literature, or around food and socialising.
I moved 3 times in my life to a different city and once to a different country and in my experience if you don't have a local social circle you high probably won't be able to sustain a healthy long time relationship. If you aren't Tony Stark you have to walk before you can run. Therefore at first you have to work on having a healthy private life with sport, hobbies and friends.
Talk to women, no matter how they look. Most guys are anxious about this, women find it refreshing to talk to men who don't have an agenda. If you're lucky they might even introduce you to their single friends. Even if none of that happens it's worth it for the friendships alone.
And don't forget to smile to strangers!
You can trim/shave your hair.
With regards to clothing you can use instagram to follow men or pages whose style you like and use that as inspiration.
Finally, I'd recommend getting in above average shape. Make going to the gym a part of your life. An hour everyday before work of straight after.
While you're doing some/all of these, I'd start to just talk to everyone. Men, women, old and young. That way you get into the habit of becoming more sociable and confident.
I know these tips may sound superficial, but they help shifting an external locus of control into an internal one.