I sometimes wonder how much my life would be different if I never got into this. Programming is such a big part of my life now. I frequently consider how much of my brain power goes to programming; and I have to say it's about 20%. If there were five of me, one of them would basically be a computer. I wonder what that fifth of my brain would have been thinking about for the past 10 years, if not programming. Maybe it…
How to Have Healthy Relationships as a Developer
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#32Earlier quoted context omitted.
Probably an implied "good" modifier in there. Good relationships are a key part of being happy. Bad relationships...not so much
Ah... HN. Such a magical land, where people call adjectives modifiers.
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#33What's it like to date / be married to another programmer? I've always wondered if this would help or hinder the relationship.
I would love to see this as an Ask HN.
Rationally I would never pick somebody from the same field as me.
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At this point, the only "hobby" I have is programming. I don't even know what else I like anymore. Well, that's on you, but the good news is that you can change that as soon as you want. Why not start today?
I've been trying for the past 6 months, but I keep coming back to programming. Old habits die hard.
Digital signal processing and music for example.
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I understand your frustration but I disagree. You should try explaining your work to a non-programmer. It's a challenge to 'dumb it down' and you only succeed if you truly understand your work. Sometimes the non-programmer is successful in suggesting a very possible solution which turns out to be a fun conversation.
Like Feynman said in this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wMFPe-DwULM , when trying to explain how magnate works to the reporter. I think it's hard for someone else to actually understand the problem when you two are not in the same knowledge framework. Cause then she/he will be perpetually asking the why and how question and being not satisfied. edited.
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#36This hit me hard. Feels like the years have just slipped on by since I graduated university.
Not particularly sure how to stop it though...maybe a few more years and I can just take a few months off and travel or something?
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#37Earlier quoted context omitted.
At this point, the only "hobby" I have is programming. I don't even know what else I like anymore. Well, that's on you, but the good news is that you can change that as soon as you want. Why not start today?
I've been trying for the past 6 months, but I keep coming back to programming. Old habits die hard.
For me that is writing poetry and making music for myself, which I randomly stumbled upon after having had so many other hobbies in the past besides programming
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#38Overall really simple changes to improve our daily life. This had me laughing: (No, changing your Vim colorscheme doesn’t count as a “different experience.”)
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#39> Relationships are a key part of being happy Is this really true for everyone? I sacrificed my relationship because I prioritize my projects and I've never been happier. I can't imagine getting into another since it would mean compromises I'm not willing to make.
Probably an implied "good" modifier in there. Good relationships are a key part of being happy. Bad relationships...not so much
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#40What's it like to date / be married to another programmer? I've always wondered if this would help or hinder the relationship.
Dating someone in the same field gives greater likelihood of finding that, but there's other ways to do it too. People who went to similar schools, people in related fields, people who hang out at similar social events...
Your work is one field where you can find overlap, but there's lots of others. My fiancé works in a completely different field, but we have similar preferences in how we spend our spare time. I'd have never met her if I restricted myself to programmers (she's in conservation and events; an odd mix to say the least).