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I made 50k in a more expensive city, Paris. From that my partner and I were able to buy a flat, put our son into a catholic school, travel (squeezyjets €20 flights), dine out, and save a little. This would not be possible anywhere in the US including SF. Child rearing costs are punitively high in the US. Medical was less than 10% of my salary. If my calculation is right the typical 2BR apartment in SF is $5000/month.…
>> I made 50k in a more expensive city, Paris. From that my partner and I were able to buy a flat, put our son into a catholic school Having a partner doubles your income. More, if French taxation works in any way similarly to the German system, then an official relationship puts you in a different taxation category. Having children moves you into yet another category where your net income noticeably improves. You're…
That's only true if the partner earns about the same as you do. Being married (or in an official relationship) lowers your tax burden if you're earning unevenly (you're basically taxed based on the average of your wages in a system with a progressive tax rate), but that's all. It doesn't magic any money into existing. If you're both earning the same, you savings are exactly 0.
What having a partner really helps with is sharing costs. You only need a single flat (but probably a larger one), a single household, maybe share a car, ...