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If you want a more sociological take on this, read "The Craftsman" by Richard Sennett.
Allow my to chime in w/ Steven Pressfield's "The War of Art" - same concept, framed in the term "the resistance".
It seems to me that the more you have a propensity to think (or over-think), the more likely it is that you may be able to construct rationalizations (excuses) before/during the moment as to why you might not be able to do something. More insidiously, you can construct these excuses after the moment passes, like an endless negative Nancy TiVo gone berzerk in your mind. There is no one-size-fits all solution to self-d…
Can you give any resources, which influenced your thinking in this context?
Having bought (and eventually given most away) pounds and pounds of self-help/self-improvement books over many years, there are common patterns in each book. They are all marketing to fix X problem with Y techniques. All parts of every technique Y may not work for you. However, like agile/scrum, there are parts of it that may be worth using for you, personally.
Having someone that knows you help keep you accountable (even better if you are both keeping each other accountable - or a small group) may work for you. You can also hire a personal coach. The accountability doesn't have to be every day (that is micromanagement and would get exhausting on both sides). Something like once or twice a month can work well. A regular 8am meeting twice a month, for example. It doesn't have to be face to face, it can be over Skype.
Finally, you may encounter the strongest resistance from yourself. Simple stuff like going to a yoga class instead of, say, a tech meetup. Or trying to meditate or visualize every day (the key tip here is do it before you turn on your laptop or your phone - do it right away, in the morning, as you roll out of bed). Saying hi to that cute person or not - and regretting it until it fades. You can make excuses until "the cows come home". And in the end, just doing it is what matters.
Stoicism 101: A Practical Guide for Entrepreneurs http://fourhourworkweek.com/2009/04/13/stoicism-101-a-practi...
Detaching emotion from action. Many articles talk about this, this is just an example. http://briankim.net/articles/important-remain-emotionally-de...
Jia Jiang 100 Days of Rejection http://fearbuster.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy/
I like to think I'm at least partially genius ;) - I had no idea about CBT or any of the steps mentioned in the article but I had developed a very similar process process mostly on my own. The first step is to keep awareness of your thoughts and feelings. Next is to remove partiality towards thoughts - you learn to take every thought as is and you learn to not have feelings towards the negative ones. That is you real…
Anyone who brings awareness to their own thoughts and feelings will figure this out.
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Yeah some amount of self-doubt sounds healthy. Questions that come to mind: * Is there a healthy and an unhealthy kind of self doubt? * What's the appropriate amount?
You should doubt everything, completely, otherwise you will make poor assumptions based on incorrect axioms.
I like to think I'm at least partially genius ;) - I had no idea about CBT or any of the steps mentioned in the article but I had developed a very similar process process mostly on my own. The first step is to keep awareness of your thoughts and feelings. Next is to remove partiality towards thoughts - you learn to take every thought as is and you learn to not have feelings towards the negative ones. That is you real…
Genius? Nah. Anyone who brings awareness to their own thoughts and feelings will figure this out.
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The flip side of being in the flow is that you're not learning much (the task is literally so easy for you that you can lose yourself in it).
My understanding of flow is that it is triggered when the task is neither too easy or too hard. It's a sweet spot that maximizes your engagement with the task at hand.
According to studies done on musical students (for what these studies are worth), the ones who practiced in "flow" progressed much slower than those who constantly and deliberately pushed themselves far outside their comfort zone.
It's crazy, but hearing him say that made a huge impact on an anxiety problem that had been getting worse for me. Thinking of it this way has without exaggeration changed my life.
This article reminds me a lot of my personal experience with cognitive behavioural therapy. I've long suffered from social anxiety and after years of anti-anxiety drugs and some therapy, I finally tried CBT and it was essentially: - write down the thoughts - identify what triggered them - find alternative (positive) conclusions At first I thought it was ridiculous but it actually works after a while.
I once heard Sam Harris talking about a similar process. Most people sort of are their thoughts. That is -- this is tough to describe plainly -- their thoughts and feelings are primary, driving their actions as if mechanically linked. But you can in a certain sense become aware of your thoughts and view them as an outsider, as something that's happening that you can see and choose how you react to. It's not just abou…
This article reminds me a lot of my personal experience with cognitive behavioural therapy. I've long suffered from social anxiety and after years of anti-anxiety drugs and some therapy, I finally tried CBT and it was essentially: - write down the thoughts - identify what triggered them - find alternative (positive) conclusions At first I thought it was ridiculous but it actually works after a while.
And some people pay thousands to have them those things explained