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is it really sexual harassment? He tried clumsily to make a move on her and she declined, if he tries again it's a red flag, but if he stop his behavior you have nothing to worry about
I once worked at a company where my wife was the director of HR. Her boss the president of the company was being "serviced" my a girl in marketing. On day she didn't get a promotion. Then she sued for sexual harresment. The delema put my wife in the hospital. Ruined my marriage. Ruined the ceo's marriage. Ruined the company. Fire them both! Make it very public that you will not tolerate your time being wasted by idio…
Is it sexual harassment B/C he asked her out or B/C he used the term "MILF" or B/C she wasn't interested? Did the whatsapp portion of the conversation occur at work or outside of work? Does your company have a policy that forbids coworkers to date? My former boss dated an employee who worked in a different department. People at work knew and it was not considered a problem. No one got fired or sued. I guess I'm tryin…
One polite and appropriate invitation to hang out (to a single coworker) is not sexual harassment. That is usually where the line is. Pushing after the rebuff is almost always trouble.
Even if you weren't to fire the person (and as a brand new hire firing seems a better option) then you would need to provide specifics when having the conversations that would follow. Mainly because all you have so far is an allegation, making your mind up (not the same as considering options) beforehand is not good.
Regardless of whether you fire the employee or not the key thing is to prepare for the conversation. If you're a founder speak to your co-founder(s), if you're a manager don't just speak with HR and have them in the room for the meeting but prepare with them. Have your opening statement well rehearsed, consider different conversational flows and how you might react to them. This isn't a thing to do on the fly.
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"I don't want to be seen as a problem, and I don't want this to be a case of management portraying it as 'that guy we love got fired because X can't take a joke'".
What is a manager supposed to do in this situation that does not lead to something along the lines of that? In that case, why bother bringing it up?
I'm not familiar with US customs, so little confused here: is asking your co-worker out is considered a sexual harassment? Or is it the "milf" part?
Not sure about asking a co-worker out, but calling someone a MILF (Mom I'd Like to Fuck) sounds like sexual harrassment to me.
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Would you find it appropriate if a coworker at work came up to you and said they would like to fuck you (which is quite literally what MILF means)
No, but neither I find appropriate if the same co-worker asked for other similarly personal thing/favor out of blue (i.e. "let's meet my parents tomorrow"), but if he/she accepts "no" and doesn't bother me anymore, I would only give a strange look.
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What is a manager supposed to do in this situation that does not lead to something along the lines of that? In that case, why bother bringing it up?
Keep an eye on him in case his behaviour persists? What may be reasonable and innocent done once, turns into harassment if done repeatedly, but if one just reports after many events, it's difficult to show the pattern.
The employee did something wrong, no sensible person doubts that, but not necessarily something that allows you to fire them without consequences for you. You need to speak to HR and then if necessary your legal representation.
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Not sure about asking a co-worker out, but calling someone a MILF (Mom I'd Like to Fuck) sounds like sexual harrassment to me.
I upvoted your comment. Calling someone you work with and barely know a milf is an asinine move. That said though - she might have led him on when she agreed to move the conversation to whatsapp.