When Are You Really an Adult? • Hacker News Board

Re: When Are You Really an Adult?

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Post by anonbanker » Mon, Jan 11, 2016, 12:11 AM UTC

Kapow wrote: post #88

anonbanker wrote: post #26

Adulthood is defined by extreme personal responsibility. I didn't consider making a baby adulthood, or getting a $100k/year job to be adulthood. If anything, I was _less_ responsible for my own actions (ballooning to 360lbs), because I started focusing on the things I _had_ to do, and let my personal development stop due to not having time . Oddly, I realized and _grasped_ the concept that I had to take responsibilit…

>declared a de jure court What does this mean? Google has no results for that phrase, using any verb tense.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/De_jure

Looks like you're stuck in the google bubble. It was my first link on DuckDuckGo.

Re: When Are You Really an Adult?

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Post by teekert » Mon, Jan 11, 2016, 8:06 AM UTC

meric wrote: post #199

teekert wrote: post #187

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"A certain statement like "You certainly are not responsible for other people.", is misleading and unhelpful because it suggests people who are tempted by relationships outside the home should go ahead and pursue them, even if it means feeling bad for being irresponsible towards your children and family." For me that falls under taking responsibility for my own life. If I were to be constantly tempted it would be a s…

It looks like we more or less agree, and the point of disagreement is the components of love, of which I think there are two: attraction and companionship. It is possible for a 50 year old husband to feel tempted to sleep with an attractive 25 year old who is trying to seduce him, while feeling deep love towards his 50 year old wife, who is now a lot less attractive than when he married her. He can feel tempted to ch…

I'd not, but my self-interest is rational, I'd never risk loosing the companionship of my wife who's intelligence I admire, who I find a great mother and a great enrichment of my life. I guess we do agree. As I said, perhaps I tend to harp to much on the ethics of rational self-interest. I tended to ignore my own needs in relationships, the works of Ayn Rand were a big eye opener.

Re: When Are You Really an Adult?

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Post by MollyR » Mon, Jan 11, 2016, 2:09 PM UTC

beccasanchez wrote: post #123

goodJobWalrus wrote: post #91

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I bet that too. He has a world-class career, made a fortune, had several wives and multiple children. He hit every "adulthood" milestone western society ever came up with.

He achieved all those things before his illness though. He had financial independence, status, and a career before he became paralysed. This means he could pay for his own nursing, and that's exactly why people see him as an adult. Here's the thing: what people are calling "adult" is nothing other than the traditional definition of "man" A "man" is a person who is independent, powerful, free, makes his own decisions,…

These are all good/interesting points. I'm not sure what I think about them right now, It'll take a while to digest.

Thanks again, you really gave me something interesting things to think about.

Re: When Are You Really an Adult?

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Post by Kapow » Thu, Jan 14, 2016, 6:35 PM UTC

anonbanker wrote: post #201

Kapow wrote: post #88

Earlier quoted context omitted.

>declared a de jure court What does this mean? Google has no results for that phrase, using any verb tense.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/De_jure Looks like you're stuck in the google bubble. It was my first link on DuckDuckGo.

That doesn't explain what "declared a de jure court" means. Declared an according-to-law court? And that made the judge run away? It's gibberish.

Re: When Are You Really an Adult?

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Post by transfire » Fri, Jan 15, 2016, 5:46 PM UTC

MawNicker wrote: post #174

transfire wrote: post #145

Never.

I don't know why you were down-voted. Too terse maybe? It's just another label with moving goal posts. A carrot for those who seek identity. Your answer was short and sweet albeit a tad sour. 10/10: Utterly accurate. Perfect signal/noise. Would read again.

LOL. Well put. Would do the same :)

Re: When Are You Really an Adult?

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Post by anonbanker » Tue, Jan 26, 2016, 4:13 AM UTC

Kapow wrote: post #204

anonbanker wrote: post #201

Earlier quoted context omitted.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/De_jure Looks like you're stuck in the google bubble. It was my first link on DuckDuckGo.

That doesn't explain what "declared a de jure court" means. Declared an according-to-law court? And that made the judge run away? It's gibberish.

I know. you don't understand. it's probably better that way.

People aren't supposed to go pro se anymore. it's either derided or discredited. I and many others still do.

If you did a little sleuthing on me, you could find out exactly who I am, and what I do when I'm not running a website.

some people stumble on the truth, and keep on jogging. Good luck with that path.