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Try the old school method: take ballroom dancing classes.
Ballroom dancing is not only funny, it is a very clever algorithm to select a long term partner, and one of the best features is that you can try 40 partners per night.
I used to be that guy that sits in the corner drinking all night: "dancing is not for me". Can't believe how much time I wasted.
As a single late 40-something, I found myself chuckling in agreement with all the main points of this really well written article. The online dating process, to me at least, falls somewhere between setting myself on fire with lighter fluid and posting cat vids (well, anything really) on Facebook. I tried it a few years back and very quickly realized it just wasn't for me and didn't fit my personality worth a damn. It…
> every women I did meet online immediately ran background checks Are you serious? Women actually run background checks on dates? I don't know where to begin with my questions. Did you tell the women about your background, or they just do it on everyone? What company or service does these checks? Don't they have to get authorization from you to do a check? Wouldn't this be expensive? Is this something typical in the…
Ask HN: Who is single?
Of course, for the women among us, the Georgia Tech mantra applies - the odds are good, but the goods are odd.
(Currently taken, with a girlfriend who says "Yes dear" when I start talking about anything computer-related. I sometimes wonder if the reason that our relationship endures is that I'm good at killing spiders)
I wonder if it's just me or does the complaint concerns mostly oc cupid, which is very data obsessed. For example Tinder, a far more successful online dating tool seems to be much much simpler in purpose and not suffering from those problems. In other words - I think it's specific to data obsessed nerds take on online dating and not the problem with online dating at all :-)
I think Tinder nailed the concept that many people don't want/have time to write 10,000 words about themselves or answer stupid quizzes. At least in my experience, a lengthy profile isn't going to help you; it can only hurt, and the item of largest importance (as the article states) is the pictures. Tinder seems ideal to quickly move from 'swipe', to a couple text messages, to a date. It's the first date that really…
Honestly people, you can still do this. Nothing's stopping you.
You know what my best "dating site" has actually been? Facebook events. Whether it's something public, a meetup, or friends' parties and the like, I meet people who know people and sometimes those people are attractive and then I ask them if they want to go out sometime.
I have gotten more dates that way in the last 6 months than I have in the entire history of using online dating websites. The whole experience, even in its' ideal, is so utterly artificial, compared to just meeting someone in person. I am on the verge of just dismissing the concept as a sham. They seem to exist mostly as an outlet for desperate men to harass women in bulk volume.
I still glance at Tinder occasionally, and I have an OKC subscription I keep forgetting to cancel, but in the former case it's become little more than a mobile version of "Hot or Not" to play when I am bored (the rare response is almost always spam), and in the latter it's more of a "well, if I hit a lull, maybe ..." sort of a thing.
I'd much rather just meet actual humans face to face and give us both a chance to see what we're really like in person. That's where a natural connection is going to come from anyway.
I wonder if it's just me or does the complaint concerns mostly oc cupid, which is very data obsessed. For example Tinder, a far more successful online dating tool seems to be much much simpler in purpose and not suffering from those problems. In other words - I think it's specific to data obsessed nerds take on online dating and not the problem with online dating at all :-)
Still, it's like the first iteration of the Stable Marriage algorithm :)
One question asks how we’d feel about being slapped hard in the face during sex — and the possible answers include “horrified,” “aroused,” and . . . . . “nostalgic.” More than I want to meet the woman of my dreams, I want to meet the employee who came up with that last option. This quote is a keeper.
I seem to recall that most of the questions are user submitted.
One question asks how we’d feel about being slapped hard in the face during sex — and the possible answers include “horrified,” “aroused,” and . . . . . “nostalgic.” More than I want to meet the woman of my dreams, I want to meet the employee who came up with that last option. This quote is a keeper.
Having just been back in the scene this past week, this is disturbingly accurate. I'm 41. I'm surprised by the number of women that are still on the site from the last time I went through this 5 years ago. I have a large profile, with a ton of hooks for conversation, and yet the number of girls I talk to on there either don't want to or can't be bothered to ask a question. And unfortunately, the one that does, I have…