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My problem with Codes of Conduct is mostly how to write them. The Swing dancing scene had a big scandal this year, and everywhere CoCs are popping up. But do you really need to write down that an adult (quite old, in that case) dance teacher is not allowed to sleep with just-teenage dance students? Or that racist remarks are not welcome? No, so you adopt very broad language. Usually something like "harassing", "makin…
I mean, we do, evidently, have a much bigger problem in the open-source community. It would be nice if we didn't, but there's no easy way around it. So there are really two options: one, hope the community stops existing or stops having influence (unlikely), or two, accept that, yes, we do need to spell out every little detail about behavior as if people don't know appropriate behavior on their own. Nobody advocating…
The Developer Formerly Known as FreeBSDGirl
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Re: The Developer Formerly Known as FreeBSDGirl
#142Earlier quoted context omitted.
OK, so if that's true, then by treating him as a legitimate member of the community and not making any sort of statement against his views, the FreeBSD project is giving him attention, and they should stop doing that. Which is exactly what Randi asked for. It's one thing if you keep your horrible-person persona separate from your technical one (as e.g. the Strange Loop thing earlier this year), although I still think…
He should have been expelled the second he was harshly transphobic to me, e.g., calling me a "tranny." I'm the trans woman Randi talks about in that article. There were many times he should have been kicked out, but in the end nobody cared enough about women's issues, or there was no real recourse for such. But since that didn't happen, Randi is trying to bring attention to the fact that the above isn't how things wo…
I'm merely lamenting my past ignorance.
Re: The Developer Formerly Known as FreeBSDGirl
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Citation needed. I've never talked to him (or, for that matter, the person that said they know all the parties involved).
s/all/most. I'm not notable and am much newer than you to the community.
Re: The Developer Formerly Known as FreeBSDGirl
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I like that she didn't, since it emphasizes that this is not about that particular conflict, but the way it has been handled. She could have mentioned his name in an effort to make him look bad (this post will probably get a lot of attention), but she didn't.
ahh, thanks for clarifying, wasn't sure if you were implying something else. In regards to your question, yes things got bad, unfortunately what is hard to see from the outside, is that the vast majority of the harassment was originally done by outside third parties who just wanted to troll two groups. They harassed some people (mostly women) then said they were part of GamerGate. This wasn't even remotely true, and…
Re: The Developer Formerly Known as FreeBSDGirl
#145What did she contribute to FreeBSD? It appears she was involved with marketing and after bullying a bunch of nerds who fought back FreeBSD didn't want her using their trademark.
Did you read the article? She says she was a committer. > Eventually, with the help of the dev community answering some of my basic questions and with Colin reviewing my code, I finally found my place in the project. I was still a senior sysadmin, but I got really angry because I couldn’t install FreeBSD from a usb thumbdrive. This seemed so easy. So, I drank some scotch (probably too much scotch) and started digging…
Re: The Developer Formerly Known as FreeBSDGirl
#146Earlier quoted context omitted.
ahh, thanks for clarifying, wasn't sure if you were implying something else. In regards to your question, yes things got bad, unfortunately what is hard to see from the outside, is that the vast majority of the harassment was originally done by outside third parties who just wanted to troll two groups. They harassed some people (mostly women) then said they were part of GamerGate. This wasn't even remotely true, and…
Did anybody in GamerGate ever criticize any male gaming journalists? Citation requested.
Re: The Developer Formerly Known as FreeBSDGirl
#147Here's what confuses me. What actually happened to her? Without any context, all this can really be is her word against someone else's. She says she forwarded on relevant harassment incidents, but without context, the actual truth of what happened to her is unknown. >Don’t tell people to stay quiet about abuse. This removes them from their support network of friends and family. Didn't they just tell her to stop talki…
Give me your twitter handle, and your employer's email address, and I'll send 800 death threat tweets and I'll spend weeks bombarding your employer with stuff.
One thing that is often said to the victims of trolls is "just ignore it" (we see that in this thread), so she wrote a tool that allows her to just ignore it and you're telling her that she's wrong.
Re: The Developer Formerly Known as FreeBSDGirl
#148Here's what confuses me. What actually happened to her? Without any context, all this can really be is her word against someone else's. She says she forwarded on relevant harassment incidents, but without context, the actual truth of what happened to her is unknown. >Don’t tell people to stay quiet about abuse. This removes them from their support network of friends and family. Didn't they just tell her to stop talki…
> I find it amusing that someone who has written a tool that allows you to filter out a specific block of individuals (as trollish as they may be) can write this post at all. The cynical side of me thinks the attitude shown here is, "Hear me, but here's a way you can systematically ignore people that I fundamentally disagree with". Give me your twitter handle, and your employer's email address, and I'll send 800 deat…
I am certainly not saying that she should ignore harassment. Let me be clear: harassment is not okay.
But I couldn't help reflecting on the irony that she has also produced a tool that allows you to filter out an entire category of people on twitter.
Re: The Developer Formerly Known as FreeBSDGirl
#149But, it is just another example that the larger tech community has a problem. GamerGate et al, they are not fantasies. Women who want to create, same as any developer, getting SWAT teams sent to their homes, this stuff is real, and indicates a real problem.
Ask yourself, are you helping fix this behavior? Because if not, then you are part of the problem.
Re: The Developer Formerly Known as FreeBSDGirl
#150She's talking about some guy and his "campaign to legalize rape". I thought she was exaggerating or maybe misunderstanding something. Sure, this guy is probably an asshole, but legalizing rape, come on! I followed the link and... it is kind of almost entertaining. He means it. Literally. You can't stop reading that trainwreck of an argument, because it gets worse and worse. And then you've lost all hope in mankind. I…
He means it in the same way Jonathan Swift meant that cannibalism should be legalized and the Irish should be allowed to sell their children as food in "A Modest Proposal" [1].