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Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
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Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#502Earlier quoted context omitted.
Your remarks about my post have to do with females, that is gender. Today that is a touchy, sensitive, politicized subject. You seem to be saying that, in dealing with people, should get more information. In a sense, you are correct: That sense is from applications of the Radon-Nikodym theorem. The charming proof by J. von Neumann is in the W. Rudin Real and Complex Analysis . In practice, not really: What I mentione…
If we're talking gender and essential truths about behavior here, then as one dude to another I honestly have to tell you that: > For me, I still have her high school graduation picture in the UR corner of my computer screen -- I'm still in love with her. That was a failure. I believe that had I known what I wish I had known, I could have saved the relationship, likely had a really good marriage, etc. We would have d…
Yeah, not the only warning flag in there, is it.
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#503When I was a kid, I sold most of my old computers and game systems to get new ones. I wish I hadn’t done that. That stuff would be awesome to have now.
I kept all my old consoles and even picked up some new ones and spares at Goodwill over the years. I consider myself a retro gaming enthusiast. They mostly sit in storage. Very occasionally I'll take them out to play & stream something. Given the state of emulation these days it is difficult to justify keeping them.
Typically, I’d agree. Then, when I hook up my Dreamcast, the physical parts are great. The controller, disks, and of course the sounds of DC. With my Atari 2600, the physical feel and sounds of the cartridges. Emulation is great for playing a game but there’s a magic to the hardware too.
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#504Thinking I could time the market after a big drop on IPO day (thinking maybe it'd rebound - which it did but then subsequently dropped and dropped and dropped). Should've just gotten access to my stock ASAP and sold everything. Instead, I let it drop so far over 6+ months that basically got less than what I put in to exercise the options + AMT. This holding mentally came because I didn't actually need the money so I…
Normally you can't sell for 6 months anyway unless it was a direct listing
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#505Never being able to achieve financial security or wealth. I live in a shabby house, and never feel I can afford anything whilst also trying to save for old age and knowing it will be an improverished life. I've never been able to figure out how to make enough money to not be a salary slave. The fear of job loss and having to work til I die doing work I don't enjoy (and having no idea what else I could do and still ke…
You're not alone on this one! Although I have savings, I'm also not able to achieve enough monthly earnings to leave me in a (much) more comfortable position. Last month I did a lot of interviews for newer jobs, but got rejected at almost everything I applied. And I read a lot of indie hackers reaching 1K, 1.5K, and so on, and I can't even get a single cent out of any idea. And how have I tried to come up with ideas for web apps! My current solution is just to rest a little bit, stop reading too much internet crap (HN included), and focus on what I have and can realistically get in the short/medium term.
I wish you all the best!
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#506Thinking I could time the market after a big drop on IPO day (thinking maybe it'd rebound - which it did but then subsequently dropped and dropped and dropped). Should've just gotten access to my stock ASAP and sold everything. Instead, I let it drop so far over 6+ months that basically got less than what I put in to exercise the options + AMT. This holding mentally came because I didn't actually need the money so I…
Normally you can't sell for 6 months anyway unless it was a direct listing
It was a spac - you could sell day 1.
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#507Earlier quoted context omitted.
I had to get out of an abusive relationship to see it was abusive, which I think is true for a lot - maybe even the vast majority - of people. She was emotionally abusive/manipulative, and that would occasionally branch into physicality. Never anything as overt as hitting/slapping, but certainly the occasional grab or shove. I also had friends bring up the emotional part (nobody ever saw anything physical) but your m…
Can u share some obvious and non obvious signs you’re in an abusive relationship?
Trust your gut feeling. Also ask yourself would you otherwise be friends with this person? Do they truly value you for you? Do you feel emotionally safe with them? Do your friends like the person. If you have a good relationship with your family otherwise, do they like your partner? If things seem off, they probably are. Also find a therapist and discuss things with them. They will be able to tell you if things are healthy or not.
The classic symptoms are alienating you from your friends and family. Negging or putting you down... even subtle jabs. They make arguments personal as an attack on your character and identity or suggest you are attacking their character. Deep down it is all about control and fear. Usually this person will have more narcissistic traits, see everything as a reflection of them and their needs. You are just a tool to meet their needs rather than an individual human.
For folks who have been in traumatic relationships and need help healing I would recommend therapy with a trauma therapist (something like EMDR).
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#508I let a divorce ruin me mentally during a pivotal year of my company. Had a rough valuation of ~100MM and blew my top 3 market position because I let my ex convince me that it was all my fault that our relationship failed. In reality she was just struggling with being gay. I stopped paying attention at work for about 18 months in an attempt to “save my family” but I just ended up losing everything. Oh well.
If you'd saved your family would you have think differently?
It was a noble sacrifice. What is your take on it now? What would you do differently?
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#509Two things slightly related: 1. Doing a job as a model when I was very young (17) in which I was sexually abused. 2. Not going to university After first, I got totally lost and torture myself. A lot. I didn't put priorities in order nor seek for help. I wasted a lot of time doing shitty jobs for having some money, having terrible relationships and doing sports heavily to keep me distracted until one day I decided it…
Thanks for sharing, and it is not your fault!
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#510Two things slightly related: 1. Doing a job as a model when I was very young (17) in which I was sexually abused. 2. Not going to university After first, I got totally lost and torture myself. A lot. I didn't put priorities in order nor seek for help. I wasted a lot of time doing shitty jobs for having some money, having terrible relationships and doing sports heavily to keep me distracted until one day I decided it…
Talking about it openly and repeatedly is the best way to reduce the power of any trauma.