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Perhaps. A very poor childhood. A product of foster care. I paid my way through school by working 3 almost full-time jobs at the same time plus school. This made me just keep going…

Thank you for commenting. I'm pretty attached to the kids, I think. They tend to flock to me. The oldest (still under 18 months) will only let me put her to bed. But interestingly …

Thanks. We are talking about this.

Thank you for sharing. I do imagine that no matter how OK my wife is, her family will be blowing up my phone for sure. Also, I think my mom will have something to say about it. My …

Yeah, I get why there is a shade of one-siding. What I am considering doing is worth fighting for. This means something different to each person.

I think about this too. Is this a temporary feeling? My wife read your comment and said "I don't know if your dedication would fade." She remembers when we were first together and …

Thank you. Ordered. Next day.

I don't view it as selfish. Maybe I need to think that way for a change. I view it as growth. Ensuring if I need to find a job I can. Putting out the next game that keeps food on t…

Maybe we can put an addition on our house to make it a work space or move the kids to the addition and use their bedroom as my work space. It has an insanely large window and overl…

I didn't think about this. Thank you for mentioning it.

I see where you are coming from with the snarky reply. That helped a bit actually because the other projects I have released have paid for our life together. I managed to do these …

It's always baffled my why a "romantic" life needs to be so hard for both parties to agree how it should work. You just do it. You make it a priority. Yet "romantic" life is a huge…

I totally see your point. Technically if you asked enough car dealerships the same question you will get a mixture of right and wrong. If you ask just one you get just one answer, …

A marriage counselor is just one person. The peanut gallery is more people giving advice from different perspectives.

How did you and your SO start talks about getting divorced?

I've thought about if I am being selfish. I'm always doing house work, running errands, running out to pick up dry cleaning, etc. I also make all the meals and general cleaning it …

Thank you for taking the time to write this. The thing is she is ok with a divorce too. She has things she wants too. It would be uncontested and I think we just need to file in co…

I honestly think she just doesn't know how. I don't think she is trying to be dis-respectful. She just needs that close personal contact and interaction through out much of each da…

In our state we must live apart for 1 year before being able to get a divorce. Living apart means though that we still need to sell the house, divide possessions, etc.

I have thought about both of these. It's weird, before my wife, I was very happy just living in a small place, just me, doing my work. We really do have a lot of fun. We tried a mi…

I love her. I promised "till death do us part" and I feel bad that after all this time I want to do my own thing. I know she will move back home and I may never see her again. She …

I've been on HN for like 6 years, so I needed a throwaway. Married for over 10 years. No biological kids together but we do care full-time for 2 kids. My wife and I get along great…