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Life Changing Books on Sex and Relationships

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Life Changing Books on Sex and Relationships

#1
Hey fellow HN, 2 years back I asked books which changed your life most and got a massive response.

Since then, I have been thinking about asking the question for Sex and Relationships. So here we are, please share the most impactful book you have read on Sex/Relationships.

Additional caveat, good if you can add your gender and relationship status along with your answer for betterment of other readers.

Re: Life Changing Books on Sex and Relationships

#8
Tannen's "You Just Don't Understand". https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/You_Just_Don%27t_Understand

Key idea in the book is that a lot of argument and disagreement arises from mismatched social attitudes/communication between men & women, similar to how cross-cultural assumptions can cause offense.

Presents a model that (typically) men socialise with a focus more on competition, independence, and status, whereas (typically) woman socialise with a focus on cooperation, inter-dependence, and intimacy.

Re: Life Changing Books on Sex and Relationships

#10
Mating in captivity by Esther Perel. It touches on how comfort and safety in a relationship can pose a challenge on sexual desire and excitement as an increase in one can decrease the other. It provides realizations and examples that make you think and see your relationship in a different way. It also touches on how societal norms and views can conflict with sexual desires and limit us in expressing ourselves
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