Dear fellow men,
Could you shares top 3 lessons you learned the hard way in a decade of your life from age 20 to 30. Thanks
What are top lessons you learned the hard way between age 20 to 30?
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#2- Set your goal 5 years in advance, time flies
- If your unsure about something, that probably enough reason to make a change. More time makes making up your mind harder because you get more invested.
- Close your eyes, to imagine how you feel if you choose either option. Just do the one that feels best. Overthinking can be a huge waste of energy and often ruins a good time.
- Never be affaird to negotiate and speak your mind.
- Read a lot - listen to Naval’s how to get rich podcast. Read Untethered Soul by Michael Singer.
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#31. People treat you how their feel about you
2. Don't tolerate toxic work environments. There are always other jobs out there. Don't be afraid to quit.
3. Don't ever settle and don't ever let someone make you feel like you are not good enough.
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#4- Set your goal 5 years in advance, time flies - If your unsure about something, that probably enough reason to make a change. More time makes making up your mind harder because you get more invested. - Close your eyes, to imagine how you feel if you choose either option. Just do the one that feels best. Overthinking can be a huge waste of energy and often ruins a good time. - Never be affaird to negotiate and speak…
have kids! your questions about life will differ and emerge to heights and lows you could not imagine without (them). full-circle.
hint: time is an asset. asking questions (on hn) costs you: time
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#51. Don't shortcut on education. I wish I would have earned a more challenging degree, instead I got a 16 month AS and went to work. At 30 I have to decide whether or not it's worth going back to school.
2. Don't put your health aside. It's easy to say you'll workout later, eat healthier later, walk more later. Do it now and start routines that will carry your health into later stages of life.
3. Try things, meet people, and go places. Even if you'd rather be at home focusing on something. The stories and experience you earn will be worth more than the items you could buy. It's hard to buy back things you could have done but didn't.
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#6Life is harder than you have ever imagined.
"Starting a business is like having a licence to print money." Nope. Running a business is not for people who don't know what they're doing.
Getting married is simple. Being married is a lot more difficult.
Kids cost thousands and thousands per year. That money has to come from somewhere. If you can't make ends meet before you have kids, you've no hope at all in doing it afterwards.
Give yourself time for enjoyment. It doesn't have to cost anything.
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#7Physical appearance matters. How you dress matters. It's not everything, but it's more than zero.
Don't have your identity wrapped up in winning. It leads to you being a hypercompetitive jerk, which is hard on relationships.
You can get better at interacting with other people, even if it takes some work. In my case, it took literally writing down every time I messed up with other people, and then talking them over with someone I trusted, and figuring out what I should have done in that situation.
And an extra: When you're asking someone out, don't ask what they're doing that weekend. It's none of your business what they're doing. Instead, ask if you can take them to dinner that weekend. That one turned out to be very important for me...
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#8Your relationship with your employer is entirely business. Do not stay somewhere you do not want to be simply because you feel they can't afford to lose you. As soon as it makes business sense, they will drop you.
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#9Hardest lesson I learned is that most people have no clue what they’re talking about. Especially with regards to life advice. If someone is pushing you hard in one direction, but you think it’s a mistake, it probably is. I’m speaking generally here, someone who has been writing Java for ten years, probably knows Java. But life advice wise, be very careful. Jealousy, arrogance, success bias etc heavily influence people’s advice
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#10Whatever you do everyday really adds up.
Studying a new language? 3 new words a day will give you a formidable vocabulary in a few years.
A can of coke everyday? The calories will have to go somewhere.