Nope, you are using a definition of democracy that is "all the things I like". Democracy is widely understood as voting-based mechanism for conflict resolution, it's just the implications that are not widely appreciated - if you take out "doing all the things I support", what remains under "democracy" is "doing all the things I don't support but the majority does". For every person, democracy IS just the ugly parts - the rest is "what I'd do anyway in my personal dictatorship utopia".
On a completely separate track, what is described above is just an extreme example of what is actually happening. Some proxy of majority voting forced me to finance, in addition to the things I would gladly finance out of necessity like police and roads; or even unnecessary things I'd gladly donate to like NASA or National Parks; such things as e.g. the continuation of the war in Afghanistan, student loan forgiveness, healthcare subsidies, TSA security theater, etc. They did it by taking some part of my earnings, i.e. forcing me to work extra instead of having more free time for the same salary. Then they used the money to bomb a foreign wedding or give some deadbeat a chance at grievance studies. I guess it's good it is only a part-time enslavement.