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The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by moron4hire »

d4mi3n wrote: post #11
revx wrote: post #5

The article mostly blames pornography and digital addiction, but I think those are symptoms of a larger problem, which is lack of belonging and community. If life sucks, you have few friends you can afford the time or money to see, and you work to make other people rich until you are exhausted, when do you have time and energy to maintain a relationship? If you feel like the world is on fire, it's hard to get in the…

You make some good points about attitude around sex in parts of the US today, and the erosion of community is a topic I was was more often discussed. Sex ed is also something I was more universally supported. Regardless of your views on when someone should have sex, I doubt it serves anyone’s goals to have young adults getting hurt, sick, or traumatized by a natural part of growing up.

This attitude is also being forced on people through media. Modern media seems almost allergic to the concept of even acknowledging that sex is a thing people do. Then, you look at the ways people self-censor on YouTube to avoid demonetization, where they won't even say the word sex. I see young people today who are shocked by movies and HBO TV shows from the 90s, 00s, and early 10s.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by [deleted] »

saulpw wrote: post #88
toomuchtodo wrote: post #38

Earlier quoted context omitted.

My vasectomy was 15 min in and out at no cost to me (ten US states require insurance cover with no cost sharing as of this comment), and I have all the sex I can get (respectfully asking anyone who might be interested) with no offspring risk. Perhaps this is not a well known option?

It's a joke about having children diminishes their father's sexual attraction to their mother.

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Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by ctoth »

chongli wrote: post #52
revx wrote: post #5

The article mostly blames pornography and digital addiction, but I think those are symptoms of a larger problem, which is lack of belonging and community. If life sucks, you have few friends you can afford the time or money to see, and you work to make other people rich until you are exhausted, when do you have time and energy to maintain a relationship? If you feel like the world is on fire, it's hard to get in the…

The decline of community is a very big deal. I think a lot of it has to do with the way we build our living spaces. Modern North American cities are rife with car-centric suburbs, huge driveways, front doors set back a mile from the sidewalk, long commutes to anywhere (not just work, even to get groceries). We're living in these metal-and-glass boxes and we only see other people as obstacles in the way of what we wan…

I've been reading this same exact comment since 2012, and it has not described any city I've lived in since the bad old Tallahassee days.

Come to Denver. We have suburbs that are walkable. Or rather don't, we don't need more people ;-)

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by hereme888 »

miltonlost wrote: post #79
hereme888 wrote: post #49

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Holy hell, you start with misogyny, enter into gender essentialism, veer straight back into misogyny tinged with incel, and end with a screed on racism. Maybe these are some thoughts you should go to therapy for. > This is why diversity is not always a strength. Yikes

lol, expected response. I'm not laughing at you though. The difference in branches of liberal vs "conservative" psychology schools is being highlighted in your comment. I know many licensed and experienced therapists who would agree with me, albeit with different wording. Likewise, there are many therapists who would agree with you.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by jeffbee »

ramesh31 wrote: post #10

I do think the alcohol-fueled hookup culture that persisted in the US from the '70s to the '00s will be seen as a historical anomaly in the long run. The idea of empowerment has given way to the understanding that women have almost nothing to gain from the arrangement, and have bore the brunt of most of its' downsides.

I think you've left AIDS out of your timeline. The period after the pill and before AIDS was the true anomaly.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by iamacyborg »

mathiaspoint wrote: post #72
iamacyborg wrote: post #58

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> Sure, at first everyone wants her, but many men don't want to marry and raise a family if mom publicly dresses/acts to attract other men's attention. I think you’re projecting some pretty heavy misogyny here.

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Sure, some guys are tired of their bad behaviour being called out, but that’s precisely why it needs to still be called out.

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by ctoth »

cush wrote: post #78
chongli wrote: post #52

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The decline of community is a very big deal. I think a lot of it has to do with the way we build our living spaces. Modern North American cities are rife with car-centric suburbs, huge driveways, front doors set back a mile from the sidewalk, long commutes to anywhere (not just work, even to get groceries). We're living in these metal-and-glass boxes and we only see other people as obstacles in the way of what we wan…

All good points. Work from home isn’t helping us any either. People typically meet their partners at work.

What 1970s office have you been working at where this is true?

Re: The share of Americans having regular sex keeps dropping

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Post by miltonlost »

mathiaspoint wrote: post #60

Nearly all in person interaction is a meaningless waste of time now. The only thing really left is sex and work. You're not supposed to have sex with your coworkers (if you even have a job where you work in person) and everyone is shamed for going to places specifically for sex so there's literally no way too initiate that kind of relationship anymore.

> Nearly all in person interaction is a meaningless waste of time now.

This says more about you than it does society.

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