I was disappointed they didn't include "homemaker" or "unemployed" so you could see which professions supported a family by themselves.
Which jobs most often pair together among married couples
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#92Earlier quoted context omitted.
> you will save on taxes ... if you pair a high earner with a low/no earner
You'll never do worse than when you were single since you can always file seperately.
I have not looked at filing separately for many years, but I ran the numbers back then and the result was the same.
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#93It is extremely rare for musicians to marry outside of their field. Particularly professional musicians.
I like that Clergy was high on that list, too. Must be church musicians marrying pastors?
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#94Software developers often marry other software developers, and computer programmers often marry computer programmers, but it is apparently rare for a software developer to marry a computer programmer.
(Also, apparently mathematician isn't a real job.)
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#95Earlier quoted context omitted.
How has marriage become unaffordable? In what way? I'm really asking. Seems to me two people with two incomes living in a 1 bedroom apartment is cheaper than one. Nearly everything is cheaper when you're married: Insurance, taxes, meals, utilities. What's less expensive as a single?
Well, consider, about 50 years ago almost every child was raised by married parents, today about half are. Having so many people with no lived experience means lower cultural forces behind asking them to participate in an expensive party, even though marriage is so good for raising children (which used to be the purpose of marriage).
I don't understand what you are trying to say.
Lived experience? Explain.
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#96I'd be interested to see a historical comparison. Supposedly the (male)doctor-marries-(female)nurse pattern of several decades ago--or the executive/secretary one, to give another example--has given way to a situation where Americans tend to marry within their own profession/class.
I think the # of female doctors has grown much more quickly than the # of male nurses (IIRC most medical students are women now). It would be interesting to compare stats by gender- does a male software engineer marry differently than a female one?
Yep, I can say with almost 100% certainty there’s a big difference between male and female dating preferences even within the same occupation. For all the talk of feminism and empowerment, women in high status fields like law and medicine are Much less likely to “marry down” to a man in a lower status field than the other way around.
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#97Earlier quoted context omitted.
How has marriage become unaffordable? In what way? I'm really asking. Seems to me two people with two incomes living in a 1 bedroom apartment is cheaper than one. Nearly everything is cheaper when you're married: Insurance, taxes, meals, utilities. What's less expensive as a single?
Well, consider, about 50 years ago almost every child was raised by married parents, today about half are. Having so many people with no lived experience means lower cultural forces behind asking them to participate in an expensive party, even though marriage is so good for raising children (which used to be the purpose of marriage).
Why is an expensive party important? You can certainly get married at a Church or at a courthouse for pretty cheap and a party isn't required, but even if it is, you can throw a decent party without thousands of dollars spent. I've been to many of them in small towns across the Midwest.
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#98I'm a software developer. I don't know about the rest of the community but for me someone being in tech is, if not a disqualifier, something very close to it. I have no real reason or justification! I guess maybe I'm just techy enough as is and prefer other qualities in a partner.
I once dated a lovely beautiful nerdy funny intelligent successful software engineer. Our first five dates were awesome. So much agreement and joy and commonality. Instant connection and camaraderie. Further on we realized we didn't bring enough to relationship. We didn't want the"gender I'm attracted version of myself". We each wanted somebody to bring new perspectives, challenge us in ways that work and nerdy frien…
I'm in the same boat; my household is certainly much more resilient and effective with a technically-focused, detail-oriented engineer and an emotionally intelligent human-oriented teacher in it than it would be with two of me (we certainly have better relationships with our neighbors and community this way, at the very least).
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#99Earlier quoted context omitted.
Except many couples meet in school, where they'd be exposed to a disproportionate number of potential spouses within their own field of study, and maybe to a lesser extent others in related programs within the same college. Which would also be skewed by things like length of study and personality types attracted to particular interests. Eg, Doctors and lawyers often don't want to get married until after school, at wh…
I’ve read that one reason wealth inequality is worse today is because high-education-high-income individuals want to marry other HEHI individuals whereas in the past this wasn’t the case. If the claim about the past is true, it seems to undermine your point
It wasn’t that long ago (at least over here in Europe) that very few women[1] made it to anything High Income, so such couplings were rarer.
[1] Relatively speaking
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#100Many anecdotal guesses are validated by this data. Doctors and agricultural workers are the obvious standouts, but I see a few more too. Us programmers stick together. Quite a high rate of marrying within the community. Lawyers show a similarly high number. A criticism of the study, is that it does not normalize by how many of these professions are in the general population. So, it appears as though software analysts…
> it appears as though software analysts don't like intermarrying What happened to 'software analysts'? Is that even a career today? Sounds like something straight out of the 80s. Is it a 'product owner'? But the real explanation is that realistically 90% of people meet their spouses in university.
> But the real explanation is that realistically 90% of people meet their spouses in university
This is very exaggerated. It seems like people who find their partner in university are in the minority these days.