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I think this is a common misconception. People say this about NYC, but it's simply not true. I have artist friends who live in NYC and make something like 30k / year. No, you probably won't be able to live in Manhattan with that kind of money but NYC is much bigger than Manhattan and it is still possible to live quite affordable and have access to the city's public transit and not need a car.
It's one thing to survive, it's another to thrive. Sure the wonder of living in NYC for some people is worth the lower comfort of daily life. I hate and avoid cars too and that alone is a major factor in where I choose to live. But if they're living on $30k in NYC, do they share their home with one or more roommates? Could they handle a $500 unexpected expense or would it devastate them? At some age you want to be ab…
When I moved to NYC, I was able to get a very comfortable apartment outside Manhattan but still very convenient to subway lines, and my rent (by far my largest recurring expense) was lower than I had been paying in my first job out of college 7 years earlier. Sure I had a roommate, but 7 years earlier I had was living with my S.O. Why do we automatically assume that a roommate == lower comfort of daily life than living with an SO?
In my case, I was unquestionably more comfortable in my 30s in NYC than in my 20s in the suburbs in a single family home.