To buy my freedom.
Seriously. It's amazing to me that this idea doesn't enter folks' minds. I would love to do my current job for 50% of the pay and work 6 months out of the year and take 6 months vacation (yes, I know the numbers would be a little different). This is not an option. You either do temp work/contracting work (a giant PITA IMHO) or you "man up" and work 40-50 hour weeks with 2 weeks of vacation.
The Fallacy of Money As A Means
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Re: The Fallacy of Money As A Means
#82This is a generally short-sighted article, that looks inward but not at the bigger picture. I want to make a lot of money because I want to start a family, and I want them to have the best life and the best opportunities available. Not to be spoiled, but simply to have a good life. And that's just the start. I want to make money so I can help people. To be able to invest in things which might cure diseases, solve hun…
You've got a lot of good points there, but I think the worst problem with the article is that it oversimplifies everything. It's fundamentally wrong about a whole lot of things. For example, it assumes that there's only one reason for wanting a lot of money. What if I want a "total autonomy over my time" and "nice things", at the same time? As @dragonwriter said elsewhere in this thread, money is one of the means of…
Re: The Fallacy of Money As A Means
#83This is a generally short-sighted article, that looks inward but not at the bigger picture. I want to make a lot of money because I want to start a family, and I want them to have the best life and the best opportunities available. Not to be spoiled, but simply to have a good life. And that's just the start. I want to make money so I can help people. To be able to invest in things which might cure diseases, solve hun…
(For the record I find your take on things noble, and it exceeded what I had considered)
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#84Earlier quoted context omitted.
Anecdotes are fun, but the data suggests over and over again that financially successful parents have more financially successful children.
Your statement erroneously associates financial success with happiness. Provably untrue.
It is very difficult to be happy when one is homeless, or is living paycheck to paycheck and has to stress about paying bills on time.
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#85I once asked people to choose between 1) Making a contribution to society as profound as Isaac Newton's, but leading such a harried life that they died before the age of 50 from a stress-related illness 2) Leading a content, good, happy, and unremarkable life Everyone in the Valley chooses (1)
Re: The Fallacy of Money As A Means
#86This is a generally short-sighted article, that looks inward but not at the bigger picture. I want to make a lot of money because I want to start a family, and I want them to have the best life and the best opportunities available. Not to be spoiled, but simply to have a good life. And that's just the start. I want to make money so I can help people. To be able to invest in things which might cure diseases, solve hun…
Now the question remains, what you dream about. Is it just money that you want, that you'll do great deeds with, when you have it? That's a dream you don't want to have. There is a saying for it: The dreamer is one who can look beyond what is immediately around him, family, kids and loved ones.
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#87Earlier quoted context omitted.
Wanting to start a family and having a family to support are two different things. I imagine the goal of a ton of people without families is to generate the capital necessary to start a family.
Having started a family a year ago, I wonder what kind of capital is necessary to start a family is? For diapers? Or do people really want to save up for college when they have barely left college themselves? Until age 3, a child doesn't even need a dedicated room, so basically any apt suitable for 2 people will do. Disclaimer: I'm in Austria, maybe it's easier here.
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#88Earlier quoted context omitted.
>I want to start a family, and I want them to have the best life and the best opportunities available. Not to be spoiled, but simply to have a good life. This... does not always work out how you think it will. I'm the oldest of six. (Divorced/remarried parents, 3 kids each). I'm dramatically more successful than any of my siblings, adjusted for age. According to the tests, I'm not any smarter than them; according to…
Anecdotes are fun, but the data suggests over and over again that financially successful parents have more financially successful children.
I am just recalling these numbers from a potentially faulty memory, but if you want to see for yourself, search for "intergenerational economic mobility"
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#90Earlier quoted context omitted.
Wanting to start a family and having a family to support are two different things. I imagine the goal of a ton of people without families is to generate the capital necessary to start a family.
Having started a family a year ago, I wonder what kind of capital is necessary to start a family is? For diapers? Or do people really want to save up for college when they have barely left college themselves? Until age 3, a child doesn't even need a dedicated room, so basically any apt suitable for 2 people will do. Disclaimer: I'm in Austria, maybe it's easier here.
Sources of capital expense for US/Canada:
- Parental leave. Most social insurance systems do not pay full salary if you make over a certain amount of money (say, $40,000 annually). If your lifestyle is higher than that, you need to save the excess. In Canada, parental leave is usually up to 1 year. In the USA, it is often 2 to 3 months (though some insurance plans allow for longer).
- If you're both working, daycare can cost $600 to upwards of $1500 monthly, depending on quality & city.
- Depending on the child, if you want to actually sleep at night it helps for the child to have their own room by age 1 to 1.5 or so, which may entail a larger flat or house. Other children are not restless sleepers and can be tolerable in a shared room.
- Otherwise, the usual expenditure, depending on your desired lifestyle and travel needs: car seats ($500+), booster seats ($200+), clothes, toys, diapers, child-proof cupboard door clips, strollers (upwards of $1000 if you're getting a multi-purpose Chariot-type carrier)
So I'd say, a middle class family would often be advised to save at least $10,000 before having a child. An upper class / affluent family that wants some level of dual parental leave, or a nanny, likely $100,000 or more.
There's also the dark side of having a child, and that's the astronomical costs of separation, assuming you want shared custody (or are fighting for primary custody). In the US or Canada, legal costs are usually at least $10,000 to get to a custody agreement and divorce filing, and more likely $20,000 to 50,000 for minor contentions. Major custody battles can cost upwards of $500,000 (each). Legal aid can help, but only if you fall below a certain income threshold. Whereas I've seen couples split with no kids for under $5,000 each.
source: many friends with children, I have a 3 year old, also too many friends with bad divorces