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This piece about how she lives, by her husband Sasha, is also great: https://sashachapin.substack.com/p/things-you-learn-dating-c...
This would also possibly describe her drug addiction If the drugs weren’t drugs that would fuel mania.
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Why are you saying that luck is positively based question. And what’s your definition of success.? I mean I put my coffee cup down on a table, do I count that as success?
You made your coffee and it doesn't taste bad. Congratulations you succeed at making good coffee!
Is agency closely related to self-confidence? Most of the points on this list seemed related to that. Not the "don't work too hard" bit, but the rest seem in the same ballpark.
I wondered the same. Seems very difficult for a person with low self-confidence to act on these recommendations.
My self-confidence was in the trash during high school. In college I had a couple of experiences that gave me opportunities to learn to be confident.
The sense of difficulty is a sign of opportunity.
I wish the author had included concrete examples of finding edges (and the process of finding them). I wonder if anyone here has an example from their experience?
One definition of an edge is knowing something other people don't. You have to be careful not to fool yourself.
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In these comments your agency is entirely aimed at negativity. In order to justify this you reframe it as realism. It's kind of like walking outside with your attention constantly focused on the fact that you might step on dog shit. If you do this, your agency is pulled away from appreciating a beautiful flower, or interchanging smiles with a pretty person, or seeing a hundred dollar bill off to the side. The fact th…
Your interpretation of my comments is negative. I’m not saying you can’t change your opportunity in life, I’m saying that if luck has anything to do with your success or failure, then it’s all based on luck, and nothing to do with what opportunities you create. It may will be that I do everything wrong in life and limit my opportunities, and still win the lottery because I tripped and fell on my face and lo and behol…
Your statement excessively (because it’s non-predictively useless) reductionist.
Yep, it’s absolute luck that that particular sperm and ovum happened to combine, that the pregnancy successfully proceeded, that you were born in a country not at war (I’m guessing), that that car didn’t run off the road and squash you when you were eight, etc. But acknowledging all that doesn’t provide any guidance.
My “woo woo” statement was literally the case: yes some incredible opportunity could sweep by and be missed because you happened to be looking the other way. And that will definitely happen — tant pis. But if you are willing to consider lucky opportunities when you are looking the other way your odds will improve.
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Playing the lottery versus not playing the lottery doesn’t change your luck, it changes your odds. If two people play the lottery the same amount of times and one person wins way more than the other, You would say one person was luckier than the other.
The meaning of the word lucky has shifted over time as we stopped believing that certain people have things go their way more often than average because fate, the gods, or whatever favors them.
So refreshing, and timely. Diving into the moat of low status is a huge multiplier. Courting rejection is a super power because when success is explosive and non-linear, it favours the players who make the most attempts, and not the hardest ones. Timely because it's not just winter, I hit a really hard personal low over the last few months. This article reminded me that I do hard, scary, and difficult things, and my…
https://sashachapin.substack.com/p/things-you-learn-dating-c...
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That would be a horrible society. High achievers getting zero credit. Moping losers blaming their failures on “bad luck”. Zero reason to strive for greatness because you’ll get sympathy if you fail and jealousy if you succeed. No thanks.
This tells me a lot about you as a person. Let me tell you how I would see it. High achievers, knowing that they’re successful based on lock would be more helpful to people who didn’t have good luck. This would turn out to be a more stable and even society. I guess you like the separation of wealth we’re experiencing right now?
Everyone gets a steady stream of good luck and bad luck. Consistently sailing upstream towards success takes a lot of grit and determination, something completely lacking in the minds of those who think they’re at the mercy of their circumstances.