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The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by TacticalCoder »

I was concerned hugging, shaking hands and kissing would be going away due to the pandemic but it seems to have survived... so far: even if for one year or more it was gone. People were all fist bumping or elbow bumping instead of the traditional hand shake or kiss but now it seems to be going back to kisses (at least between french / belgians / russians for those that I know).

Hand shakes are back too.

Or, well, they were before the Omicron variant.

Because seen that the vaccines either aren't working or are working for a very short duration of time (half the people in ER due to Covid are fully vaccinated), it looks like it's another round of lockdowns / scare tactics. The only clear thing is they're non-sterilizing vaccines: what's not even clear is if they're vaccines at all (I got my shots btw, but apparently I'm in the threadmill now for shots every 9 months...).

I don't know if people hugging / kissing / shaking hands can survive several years of pandemic fearmongering.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by ggpsv »

silicon2401 wrote: post #77
mudita wrote: post #14

Slightly off-topic: I’m a professional dancer, we specifically train hugging. For contemporary dance, because it’s an important skill for a lot of partnering moves, like jumps involving two persons (an example of partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbxTWsoO4&t=13s ). One important detail I found interesting is that for contemporary dancers, it’s not only about the arms, but how to use the whole body for the…

> abrazo I've always found the use of loan-words with mundane meanings amusing and baffling. 'Abrazo' translates directly to 'hug', just like 'langsam' in music translates directly to 'slow(ly)'.

Parent is referring to tango, which originated in a spaniel-speaking area. "Abrazo" has meaning within the dialect, and that can be lost in translation.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by bongoman37 »

gbog wrote: post #12

Best hug for me is no hug, thanks. I would bet 95% of the human beings never hugs except between lovers or parents and their kids. I would bet hug is very much a North American thing. I'm French and hate hugs (we kiss on the cheeks, which feels less intrusive to me, but is crasy intrusive in most non-Latin countries). I live in China and, in normal settings, people here won't hug, won't kiss and won't even shake hand…

I'm in India and people hug all the time, opposite gender and same gender. Way more than I'd like anyway.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by germinalphrase »

TacticalCoder wrote: post #81

I was concerned hugging, shaking hands and kissing would be going away due to the pandemic but it seems to have survived... so far: even if for one year or more it was gone. People were all fist bumping or elbow bumping instead of the traditional hand shake or kiss but now it seems to be going back to kisses (at least between french / belgians / russians for those that I know). Hand shakes are back too. Or, well, the…

You think they’re giving people placebo shots?

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by callamdelaney »

xutopia wrote: post #67

I've been to over 100 cuddle parties. One thing that wasn't mentioned in these studies is the context for these hugs matter a lot. Most people avoid cuddle parties because they wouldn't want to cuddle a stranger and their ideas of what the "party" looks like is usually really wrong. The cuddle parties I have been to were organized in such a way to allow people to refuse more easily any request that comes their way. T…

I probably wouldn't boast about the number of cuddle parties one had attended.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by xtracto »

nextaccountic wrote: post #33
jimbob21 wrote: post #2

Dumb to write this article and not include graphics that demonstrate the hug types.

The published paper that the article talks about is open access and actually has photos https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S000169182... The two hug styles are about the way the arms are crossed

One thing I've always found interesting is the small awkward moment that happens whenever an American and a Mexican meet after some time and proceed to "hug": The American will most likely go for the "shoulder bump greeting" [1] while most Mexicans would go for the standard "criss cross" hug [2]. The result is a couple of seconds of awkward close "dancing".

[1] https://shabait.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/sept-21-artic...

[2] https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/11/16/14/50559763-0-image-...

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by chaoskanzlerin »

TacticalCoder wrote: post #81

I was concerned hugging, shaking hands and kissing would be going away due to the pandemic but it seems to have survived... so far: even if for one year or more it was gone. People were all fist bumping or elbow bumping instead of the traditional hand shake or kiss but now it seems to be going back to kisses (at least between french / belgians / russians for those that I know). Hand shakes are back too. Or, well, the…

> (half the people in ER due to Covid are fully vaccinated)

I'm sorry to derail, but [citation needed]

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by MaxDPS »

dschuetz wrote: post #78

I am not sure about this, because I don't like to be hugged at all, and if someone does hug me I want to run away and hide.

I like hugging but if you don’t like it, it’s ok to tell people that. The intention behind a hug is to make someone feel more comfortable, but if that doesn’t work for someone, I’d rather them tell me.

It might be easier to tell people you are more comfortable with but those are probably people you see more regularly so it’ll still be helpful.

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