(Forgive me for the length of this, but I hope it does give you something to consider.)
I would just request a fair hearing on the point of what a literalist Christian is by definition:
"Die to save your enemies" (Christ's teaching and action) is the direct opposite of "kill your enemies at all costs" (terrorism).
Just from the sermon on the mount (Matthew 5-7), a literalist Christian would have to do the following:
- Be glad when people insult you and falsely accuse you (5:11-12)
- Always be a good example for your community (5:14-16)
- Have a righteousness greater then the religious leaders (5:20)
- Not be angry or insult others (5:22)
- Make peace with others before coming to God (5:23)
- Settle with people quickly and find a solution to disagreements before it becomes a legal battle (5:25)
- Not look at a woman lustfully (or a man in the general sense) (5:28)
- Control yourself (5:29-30)
- Never seek divorce (5:31-32)
- Every single communication must be truthful (5:37)
- Don't fight back or resist those who attack you (5:39)
- If someone steals or sues you, give them double what they seek (5:40)
- If someone forces you to work, do twice as much as they demand (5:41)
- Always give whoever asks and always lend to others who ask (5:42)
- Love your enemies and pray good for them and be perfect in that love for them (5:44-48)
- Never do good just to look good (6:1)
- Do good in secret as much as possible (6:3-4)
- Pray in secret to God not to be seen by people (6:5-6)
- Don't pray like an idiot (6:7)
- Pray for God's honor (6:9)
- Pray for God's will be done (6:10)
- Pray for daily needs (6:11)
- Pray for forgiveness as you forgive others (6:12)
- Pray for avoidance of temptation (6:13)
- Expect to receive forgiveness equally to the way you forgive others (6:14-15)
- Only fast in secret (6:18)
- Do not have treasures on earth, but instead have treasures in heaven (6:19-21)
- Do not chase after money, but chase after God (6:24)
- Do not worry about food, clothing, and daily needs. Expect God to take care of you (6:25-32)
- Instead seek God's kingdom and his righteousness in your life and let him take away your worry (6:33-34)
- Do not judge others or you will be judged in the same way by God (7:1)
- Don't accuse your brother when you have your own problems. (7:3-4)
- Solve your own problems first, then you can try to help your brother. (7:5)
- Don't go around like your crap don't stink (being a jerk judging everyone else) or you will find enemies who will rip you a new one. (7:6)
- Ask and work to obtain your needs (7:7-11)
- Treat others exactly the way you would like them to treat you (7:12)
- Don't follow popular opinion because it leads to death (7:13-14)
- Watch out for false teachers who claim to be lambs but are really wolves (7:15)
- Judge a person's character according to the evidence of their life not by the name they claim (7:16-20)
- If you only claim Jesus and don't obey him, you do not know him (7:21-23)
- If you listen to Jesus and obey his teaching, you are wise (7:24-25)
- If you listen to Jesus but don't obey him, you are acting stupidly and will destroy yourself (7:26-27)
- Jesus teaching is amazing and completely different then the religious leaders (7:28-29)
I think in my best objective reasoning, that if every human lived like this, the world would be an awesome place to live.
Refer to Galations 5:22-23 (ESV): "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law"
(Before continuing, I would confess I fail to live up to these often and I recognize my own stupidity, arrogance, and selfishness. Despite that, as instructed, I seek forgiveness for my failings; and I strive to live up to these values, as I intend to love God and love others like this.)
Having said that, any hateful person can claim any name and use it to attack others. When that person is clearly acting in the exact opposite of the teachings of that group, should those teachings be blamed?
This is not a "No True Scottsman" claim:
I am not saying people who do evil are not Christians. On the contrary, a Christian might do evil things, but when they do so, they are acting in error - in direct contradiction to their teachings. The fault is not with the teachings, but with the failure of the individual to "practice what they preach".
As a tech analogy:
A diode with a flaw in it may act like a capacitor. Though it was intended to be a diode, it is no longer acting like one and it is now acting in direct contradiction to it's definition. The individual diode is in a failure state, but the failure state of an individual diode (or even some percentage of the group) does not apply to the definition of what a diode should be.
The definition of the diode is good and the goal would be that all diodes actually fulfill their definition.
So the argument should not be against "all Christian videos", but the argument should be that "all Christians should actually do what Christ said".
Concerning Islam, I think it would be great for any Islam teacher (and everyone) to preach love, forgiveness, and sacrificing yourself to save your enemies.