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Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by Apocryphon »

tailspin2019 wrote: post #58

I don’t have a comment on the article. But if I was the author, it would be pretty rough reading the comments here. I guess it’s worth remembering that for every blog post out there that perhaps we don’t like, there are a million that are never written in the first place for fear of being exposed to criticism. So maybe there is virtue in just having the courage to put yourself out there and invite the world to cast t…

The author was right and brave to put himself out there and express what he wants. (Even if the intention behind the post might have been to create vapid SEO content for the sake of furthering his Brand and to grow his Clout.) But others are right to criticize the blog post for its failings, as per their opinions. Everyone is just doing the best they can.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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mcguire wrote: post #44

Ok, so let's see here. 1. Got a meaningless certificate. Also expanded his "wildly successful business leaders" network. 2. Added people to a project in order to get it completed faster. (The ghost of Fred Brooks is making it hard to type here now.) 3. Proposed re-orging Red Hat engineering. 4. Had a meeting. 5. Wrote strategy doccies. 6. Mentoring. (1 out of 7 isn't bad.) 7. Had a meeting about advertising copy. I'm…

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Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by Apocryphon »

adamdusty wrote: post #23

I think the author might be missing the point of the book. Nothing on that list anything to do with forming habits. I suppose the mentoring bullet point could be a habit, but it's bit vague.

Yeah, that's the most annoying thing about this article. It's fine to make a recap about what he's working on and be all intentional about it... but it doesn't seem to have anything to do with Atomic Habits at all. That entire list is projects, not day-by-day little patterns.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by wizofaus »

vhiremath4 wrote: post #47
cortesoft wrote: post #26

Oh man this is such a perfect example of productivity porn. Every action you take isn’t a vote for the type of person you wish to become, it is a vote taken by the person you are. I hate this mindset of “I am constantly working towards becoming someone else”. When do we spend time as the person we are? When do we enjoy the fruits of our labor? I feel like some people who take this mindset see their lives as being two…

> Every action you take isn’t a vote for the type of person you wish to become, it is a vote taken by the person you are. This is patently false. If you start smoking cigarettes occasionally and start doing it more, you are becoming more of a smoker. The actions you take or don't take are the clearest input to the person you become. It's true that this is also the person you are, but that distinction seems meaningles…

> There is no problem with being competitive.

I'd say there definitely is if you do everything in life that way. You seem to be assuming it's possible to be meaningful competitive without it affecting how you interact with other people. But competitive-minded people often make it abundantly clear to those around them how much they're "winning" and even make it a point of pride that others aren't doing so well. So yes, there definitely can be problems with being competitive. But our competitive instinct can be positive motivating force - we've all pushed ourselves that little harder knowing the reward will be a higher spot on the results table. How to combine that with not being an asshole about it seems to be the challenge.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by darkerside »

wizofaus wrote: post #74
vhiremath4 wrote: post #47

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Every action you take isn’t a vote for the type of person you wish to become, it is a vote taken by the person you are. This is patently false. If you start smoking cigarettes occasionally and start doing it more, you are becoming more of a smoker. The actions you take or don't take are the clearest input to the person you become. It's true that this is also the person you are, but that distinction seems meaningles…

> There is no problem with being competitive. I'd say there definitely is if you do everything in life that way. You seem to be assuming it's possible to be meaningful competitive without it affecting how you interact with other people. But competitive-minded people often make it abundantly clear to those around them how much they're "winning" and even make it a point of pride that others aren't doing so well. So yes…

Salience bias. You don't notice the competitive people who aren't assholes, but there are plenty of them. Some of them are even humble.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by karaterobot »

vhiremath4 wrote: post #47
cortesoft wrote: post #26

Oh man this is such a perfect example of productivity porn. Every action you take isn’t a vote for the type of person you wish to become, it is a vote taken by the person you are. I hate this mindset of “I am constantly working towards becoming someone else”. When do we spend time as the person we are? When do we enjoy the fruits of our labor? I feel like some people who take this mindset see their lives as being two…

> Every action you take isn’t a vote for the type of person you wish to become, it is a vote taken by the person you are. This is patently false. If you start smoking cigarettes occasionally and start doing it more, you are becoming more of a smoker. The actions you take or don't take are the clearest input to the person you become. It's true that this is also the person you are, but that distinction seems meaningles…

> This is patently false. If you start smoking cigarettes occasionally and start doing it more, you are becoming more of a smoker. The actions you take or don't take are the clearest input to the person you become. It's true that this is also the person you are, but that distinction seems meaningless if you're trying to become someone better (whatever better means to you).

I don't know about 'patently false': it's literally true. The things you do reflect who you are when you do them, the person you are becoming is a hypothetical who does not exist. For example, I am the one splitting hairs in this comment, not the future me who wants to be named world's biggest pedant.

What your example points out is someone who is doing more of something over time. A smoker who smokes more is a trend, not an action.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by 0xbadcafebee »

I ate cereal for breakfast this morning. I'm sure I could analyze this decision, judge my future self, and change what/when/how I eat. But I'm not interested in that much introspection or self improvement. I'm just trying to get through the day.

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by tailspin2019 »

Apocryphon wrote: post #71
tailspin2019 wrote: post #58

I don’t have a comment on the article. But if I was the author, it would be pretty rough reading the comments here. I guess it’s worth remembering that for every blog post out there that perhaps we don’t like, there are a million that are never written in the first place for fear of being exposed to criticism. So maybe there is virtue in just having the courage to put yourself out there and invite the world to cast t…

The author was right and brave to put himself out there and express what he wants. (Even if the intention behind the post might have been to create vapid SEO content for the sake of furthering his Brand and to grow his Clout.) But others are right to criticize the blog post for its failings, as per their opinions. Everyone is just doing the best they can.

> Everyone is just doing the best they can.

I can get behind that :)

Re: Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become

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Post by celim307 »

cortesoft wrote: post #26

Oh man this is such a perfect example of productivity porn. Every action you take isn’t a vote for the type of person you wish to become, it is a vote taken by the person you are. I hate this mindset of “I am constantly working towards becoming someone else”. When do we spend time as the person we are? When do we enjoy the fruits of our labor? I feel like some people who take this mindset see their lives as being two…

“Strong opinions held weakly” apply here too. Work hard, but constantly check in with yourself and ask if your current goals still make sense and feel good.

I made a lot of ideals and goals when I was younger and didn’t know myself or the world, and it caused me to chase things that ultimately didn’t bring my happiness.

I’m much better now loving my harmless, wierd, silly bits, and working on improving the prickly bits that hurt others around me and myself, but I’m still learning what those all are and that’s ok. That’s growth.

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