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Is there any explanation from game theory as to why a slight imbalance causes such an exaggerated effect? It makes sense that since there are more men, women get pickier, so paradoxically there appears to be less good men available to women. What does game theory predict in such a situation?
The eligible bachelor paradox.
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I think it's more that most men here aren't into the same sorts of things women are into, so they self-segregate by sex. If you're going to work 70-80 hours on a startup, basically no sane woman is going to join you (I know a couple women that'll do startups, but most seem to want some semblance of a life too.) If you're going to read TechCrunch and Reddit and Digg all day, same thing. If you go to a yoga/pilates/yog…
"And even big tech companies have pretty even gender ratios" Thats very false. Here is a sample of companies and their ratio: Google: Median Age 29 years Gender Male 65% Female 35% Yahoo: Median Age 32 years Gender Male 66% Female 34% Facebook: Median Age 27 years Gender Male 68% Female 32% Sun: Median Age 37 years Gender Male 74% Female 26% eBay: Median Age 32 years Gender Male 62% Female 38% Non Tech: UC Berkeley (…
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1. If you're into Asian women(and may be they are into you), you'll feel like you've won the lottery by moving to SF. 2. If you're not, well, you'll learn to:)
Are they Asian American or straight Asian? There's a huge difference.
Interestingly almost all straight Asians in SF are there to learn English.
Also why is there a lack of African American people there? Anyone ever been to a technology conference? I felt like I stepped into Harvard circa 1955.
As someone who is considering moving to San Francisco, this is terrifying. Please, can a local soothe me with a rebuttal?
As someone who is considering moving to San Francisco, this is terrifying. Please, can a local soothe me with a rebuttal?
I think it's more that most men here aren't into the same sorts of things women are into, so they self-segregate by sex. If you're going to work 70-80 hours on a startup, basically no sane woman is going to join you (I know a couple women that'll do startups, but most seem to want some semblance of a life too.) If you're going to read TechCrunch and Reddit and Digg all day, same thing. If you go to a yoga/pilates/yog…
Not true at all! Really driven, busy women usually choose choose driven, busy men. I worked full time, ran my own company, and had a full classload studying for a business degree for two years. My working breakdown was: 30-50 hours at my job, 20-40 hours at the startup, and 9-20 hours doing classes and schoolwork.
The rest of the last five years haven't been much less busy. In that time, I had a girlfriend who was a fashion editor and had her own talk show, dated an award-winning genius hyper-athletic architect, and had a really cute girl in medicine. All busy girls. I also had a couple other girls who led more casual lives, but came from driven families. My main girlfriend for a while had parents supporting her, and she picked me up and dropped me off from many of my classes, she cooked for me while I was doing my work, and when I got a bit of time off, we'd rent movies or go to a casino or something.
Normal, regular people don't understand busy, driven people. That's both regular men and women. It's hard to have "normal" friends when 70-100 hours of your schedule are blocked out each week with craziness. But busy people understand - so I went skiing and diving and got into trouble with my busy, driven friends when we had some vacation time, and the girls were always happy. Start looking for girls who are hyper-driven themselves: Lawyers, architects, executives, media, etc. And look at girls who have a super-driven father, which is just generally good advice for a driven man anyways.
Regular people don't understand busy people, and get offended, and want a "work-life balance" instead of building an empire. And that's fine, if they're happy. But there's plenty of woman who want, love, embrace, and support a driven man. Get one of those girls and you're cruising. I wouldn't recommend trying to date a "civilian" if you're living a crazy life though, they don't understand, won't understand, can't understand. No big deal - the driven, busy girls are awesome anyways.
As someone who is considering moving to San Francisco, this is terrifying. Please, can a local soothe me with a rebuttal?
Also why is there a lack of African American people there? Anyone ever been to a technology conference? I felt like I stepped into Harvard circa 1955.
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You're asking what the gay scene is like in San Francisco?
No, I'm wondering, if you have 100 gays at a bar, what different demographics would add or detract from it. Cause if you have 10 more hot guys, there's nothing stopping them from dancing in a clique unconnected to anyone else, versus 10 ladies who probably didn't go out to hook up with each other at the end of the night. Are there different types of guys you could incentivize to show up, like Ladies' Night?
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Are they Asian American or straight Asian? There's a huge difference.
True. I'm sure it's majority Asian-American but I found the cutest ones to be straight Asian. Of course, they were also the hardest to make things work out given the severe language issues. Interestingly almost all straight Asians in SF are there to learn English.
Depends on where she's from. In countries like the Philippines, English education is much more ubiquitous than, say, Japan or China.