You sound depressed, and I think you should be talking to people about getting help. Your career will be fine no matter what you do. Please take your health seriously.
Thanks for your concern, but I'm not depressed.
I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
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#62dot_baiki@hotmail.com lass uns etwas machen. Good Luck!
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#63Is 30 too late? Guess someone should have told this guy that at age 65:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harland_Sanders
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#64Oh dear God, 30 already? You've got one foot in the grave!
People start things when they're 75, man, and succeed. The best time in your life to start anything is now.
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#65You sound depressed, and I think you should be talking to people about getting help. Your career will be fine no matter what you do. Please take your health seriously.
Thanks for your concern, but I'm not depressed.
Ok. I believe you. You are also not approaching any sort of "last chance" for a tech career.
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#66I have been a dreamer all my life. It took me until last year to figure this out, and only thanks to this community. Great. Dreaming is necessary but not sufficient for great accomplishments. Glad you're one of us. I hardly ever tried - and when I tried, I didn't persist. It has been my goal to start a business since ever I can remember. And yet I never really tried (until last year, which resulted in abysmal failure…
Damn, what can I say? Thanks man! Will take your advise to heart. My post probably came across as a bit too much whinging. Will make sure that I deliver stuff from now on, rather than empty talk.
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#67Hey, I am 30 and also a loser! I have built some things, including a web app that got exactly one customer who runs his business on it, and I just let it sit there month after month, not failing, but not growing because I don't market it and it needs more features. But I feel like a loser in the sense that I have not done nearly anything near what I feel capable of; and have spent several thousand hours of my 20s rea…
Always look forward. That doesn't mean you can't take a few minutes now and then to look back; just don't get stuck in it. Get back to looking forward. You always have the choice.
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#68I have been a dreamer all my life. It took me until last year to figure this out, and only thanks to this community. Great. Dreaming is necessary but not sufficient for great accomplishments. Glad you're one of us. I hardly ever tried - and when I tried, I didn't persist. It has been my goal to start a business since ever I can remember. And yet I never really tried (until last year, which resulted in abysmal failure…
I cannot relate to much of the OP's story, but nonetheless you just got me so fired up. This is all such damn good advice! Thank you!
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#69First off, you are not a loser. It is a word that you decided to label yourself with, it's totally arbitrarily chosen and not based in reality if you really think about it.
Second , this is not your last chance. Life is a collection of tries and failures but it is important to distinguish between yourself as a human being trying to win at the game of life and your professional achievements (or failures). They are not the same thing! Like every living organism, you are part of this infinitely complex ecosystem, proliferating, processing and modifying the light from a star. You are the spearhead of thousands of generations of winners at this game of life, who managed to transmit their strong features into the future with the ultimage goal of achieving a form of immortality. If you look at yourself from this perspective, rather more important and deep then whatever number is associated with your bank acount in some SQL database on some server belonging to some bank, then the term 'sucess' or 'loser' is really unapplicable.
Likewise, success is a rather arbitrarily chosen label. Our society generally defines it as people who were lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time and be born into the right parents and to have met the right people and to have been blessed with the right obsession (which we call talent) to become sucessful at increasing their financial and political score.
But this is just a small piece of the whole puzzle!
My sugestion is to really try to look at your spiritual side and try to realise what your other purposes (besides making money) really are.
Eventually, who you are is really what stories about yourself you believe in.
Oh, and your life is only just begining !
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#70I am 39 years old, I have a similar problem. Here is a short excerpt (unfortunately, the quality of the translation may not be very high quality) from http://lurkmore.to/%D0%9A%D1%80%D0%B8%D0%B7%D0%B8%D1%81_%D1%...
First of all out of your head delusion that "time lost", "polymers fucked", "clock is ticking" and that your age is not something to achieve. Only where the roads are closed to you - is the astronauts (in flight school adult uncles are not accepted) and the police (by law there are taking up to 35 years, though ...). And then, there is nothing stopping you hard earn money, and eventually fly to this your fucking space tourist. Also, you will be quite difficult to set a world record in some sports disciplines (although not impossible). Everything else is affordable 40-year-old man in the same way as 25-year-old. Of course, this does not mean that you should continue waste a time, but count every second - at least, stupid. Currently live as he lived, but finally put a clear goal, and achieve it as sought would be if you were 20 now. The result will be exactly the same. Errors makes all but the biggest mistake - if I think that they can not be fixed.