Edit: Reading through more of these comments, I'm not alone.
Making Friends Over 30 with Grubwithus
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Nice website. Would love to check it out but I don't use Facebook. I really don't understand why websites don't have alternative means of creating an account. It's worth considering that people who are more likely to use such a site might be more introverted than the average person and perhaps less likely to have a Facebook account.
We actually target INTJ and INTP people for Strangers for Dinner. And yes, we're looking to move away from Facebook, but right now, Facebook has a wealth of information about a user. Our system can make heuristic guesses (and validate that you're a real person) about your interests by using Facebook, so it's gonna be difficult to replace for the time being. Sorry about your non-experience with SfD
I thought it was a bit weird you used Pyongyang as the default. If you had picked any other foreign city I would have assumed it was a foreign website and given up then. Probably better to leave blank (I had to delete Pyongyang, so this would have saved me typing) or fill in using IP geolocation.
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#63Earlier quoted context omitted.
We actually target INTJ and INTP people for Strangers for Dinner. And yes, we're looking to move away from Facebook, but right now, Facebook has a wealth of information about a user. Our system can make heuristic guesses (and validate that you're a real person) about your interests by using Facebook, so it's gonna be difficult to replace for the time being. Sorry about your non-experience with SfD
Why target INTJ and INTP? Do you do anything on the site to verify the personality type? I thought it was a bit weird you used Pyongyang as the default. If you had picked any other foreign city I would have assumed it was a foreign website and given up then. Probably better to leave blank (I had to delete Pyongyang, so this would have saved me typing) or fill in using IP geolocation.
I used Pyongyang as a form of negging. The idea was to use repugnance to force people to change the form. There is a IP geolocation version coming out really soon (as well as other features)
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#65How likely is it to turn random strangers into friends? Seems to me a better strategy would be to do things where meeting people would already signal a common interest. Sure, we all like to eat, but that is usually not enough to form a life-lasting bond. That said, personally I am always curious about other people, and meeting people you wouldn't meet otherwise sounds like fun - for a while.
You're absolutely correct. That's why Grubwithus has themed meals and local interest groups (that regularly host meals). The idea of bringing people together over a shared interest has been incredibly well received, and generally results in higher quality conversation etc.
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> You're not going to make friends over one dinner. ... Friendship takes repeated exposure in mundane situations. I agree... so why not host multiple dinners? On your own? I started hosting my own dinners[1] at my house every Wednesday and it's been fantastic. Really super great. I can't advocate it enough, especially for someone introverted like myself who may not want to go out of his way to interact with new peopl…
Congratulations on leading the dinner parties! That is awesome! Weird book recommendation that you very well might like - if you are open to it. http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2035352.What_French_Women... Dinner parties are the engine of French social life. It's part of their culture. In such a small country, you have to know someone before you 'date' someone. In France, dating is something that is just not done.…
Frankly I wish this kind of thing were more popular in the USA too. Dating strangers is nice and individualistic and all, but I'm way more comfortable meeting people through friends and more to the point it's fun - which is more than I can say for spending hours writing OkCupid messages which will 90% of the time be ignored.
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#67I don't want to criticize the post as promotional, because it's the company blog, and it's their job to be talking about themselves. At the same time, I don't think it's a real answer to the NY Times article. You're not going to make friends over one dinner. I've gone to a couple GrubWithUs dinners, and they were great. I met interesting people, had interesting conversations, and even made some new acquaintances. I d…
> You're not going to make friends over one dinner. ... Friendship takes repeated exposure in mundane situations. I made two friends at a GrubWithUs dinner. I think in today's climate you have to be so much more deliberate and calculating to have friends. You have to treat friendships the same way you treat online dating- meet as many people as possible and make plans with as many of them as you can. Which is really…
Even sadder is that pleasant people should be tied up in relationships with unpleasant ones. How does that happen? Is there a shortage of pleasant people, or does everyone care more about looks/money than kindness?
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#68I don't want to criticize the post as promotional, because it's the company blog, and it's their job to be talking about themselves. At the same time, I don't think it's a real answer to the NY Times article. You're not going to make friends over one dinner. I've gone to a couple GrubWithUs dinners, and they were great. I met interesting people, had interesting conversations, and even made some new acquaintances. I d…
> For myself, I still have a D&D group… Oddity, that's exactly why I started to play D&D (…erg, pathfinder) at age of my life.
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> You're not going to make friends over one dinner. ... Friendship takes repeated exposure in mundane situations. I agree... so why not host multiple dinners? On your own? I started hosting my own dinners[1] at my house every Wednesday and it's been fantastic. Really super great. I can't advocate it enough, especially for someone introverted like myself who may not want to go out of his way to interact with new peopl…
Wow. You had just what I had in mind. I created Strangers for Dinner to that extent. We've had about 4 dinner parties so far and they were pretty amazing. The amount of conversation you get with strangers, learning more about different people. Hope I don't sound too self-promotional, but you can check out Strangers for Dinner: http://strangersfordinner.com
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Wow. You had just what I had in mind. I created Strangers for Dinner to that extent. We've had about 4 dinner parties so far and they were pretty amazing. The amount of conversation you get with strangers, learning more about different people. Hope I don't sound too self-promotional, but you can check out Strangers for Dinner: http://strangersfordinner.com
How do I finish filling out the profile? Apparently I can't respond to "Bring a plus one" to the party?
Do you have any suggestions on how to fix it?