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Daddy isn’t coming back

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Re: Daddy isn’t coming back

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There are a lot of mental health issues that make this level of self-awareness and future planning incredibly difficult.

Perhaps a good reason to keep elevating the socially approved age to reproduce? By the time you're in your 40s, you likely have a good idea of whether or not you're a stable enough mind to commit to the minimum 20 years required to uplift a new human adult.

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Re: Daddy isn’t coming back

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post #45

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Perhaps a good reason to keep elevating the socially approved age to reproduce? By the time you're in your 40s, you likely have a good idea of whether or not you're a stable enough mind to commit to the minimum 20 years required to uplift a new human adult.

I'd suggest looking up fertility rates for women based on age; it' quite difficult for a woman to get pregnant that late in life, and for some women it might not be possible at all.

That's a technical problem that will improve with time and has been actively improving for decades.

It also won't be long before we have artificial wombs and can create embryos more expressively than the current 1 male 1 female demands of nature.

I see a future where one waits even several hundred years and dozens of careers and lifestyles before choosing to combine their genes and memes with others to spawn and raise a new consciousness, maybe even committing to a hundred years to raise it.

Re: Daddy isn’t coming back

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There are a lot of mental health issues that make this level of self-awareness and future planning incredibly difficult.

Also social pressure and expectations. How many people would feel comfortable saying "Sorry mom/dad/friend/potential partner, I'm not going to have kids because I'm worried I might not be a good parent or maybe even take my own life"?

My partner and I talked about our health (and mental health) in the context of deciding if we wanted to be parents to a kid. I like to think that's a normal enough conversation to have.

Re: Daddy isn’t coming back

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post #45

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Perhaps a good reason to keep elevating the socially approved age to reproduce? By the time you're in your 40s, you likely have a good idea of whether or not you're a stable enough mind to commit to the minimum 20 years required to uplift a new human adult.

I'd suggest looking up fertility rates for women based on age; it' quite difficult for a woman to get pregnant that late in life, and for some women it might not be possible at all.

It's historically somewhat common for older, more established and financially secure men to pair up with young women.

It does seem like a good practical/pragmatic approach to raising a family.

Re: Daddy isn’t coming back

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I have schizoaffective bipolar disorder, and aspergers. I was making $130,000 a year as a network engineer at Cisco in 1999 before I became too sick to work anymore. Right now I am homeless living in my van with a transmission about to go. I have attempted suicide three times already. I keep thinking about doing it again. No one wants to provide me the best medicine, stable housing. I make $1700 on disability but I c…

> I actually have a mitochondrial disorder.

If you do, what treatment options does that offer? Can you pursue that treatment without an official diagnosis?

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15612-mitocho...

mentions no prescription-restricted treatments, just vitamins, diet, exercise, and rest. It mentions therapy, but general skills therapy, nothing specific to mitochondrial disease.

Re: Daddy isn’t coming back

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Not a comment on the story itself, but rather on the postscript which follows it: > If you are struggling to cope or have been affected by anything in this story, please contact the Samaritans in the UK at 116 123 or jo@samaritans.org. In the US, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is 1-800-273-8255. More information at mind.org.uk, samaritans.org and save.org Years ago, unhappy but not suicidal, I decided to ca…

I used to work at a hotline, and OF COURSE the 'quality' of the volunteer varied. We were not trained to avoid anything, we were there to stay on the line as long as people wanted, and talk about whatever people needed unless there were more calls than we could handle. Many people called who were in crisis, rather than overtly suicidal, we were there for them.

Re: Daddy isn’t coming back

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Statistics also suggest that, singularly among illnesses, people with schizophrenia fare better in the developing world, where the rates of remission are higher. It's because developing countries are low-compliance societies. Humans weren't evolved to live in high-compliance societies and a lot of us don't care for it at all. Some of us get by. Others don't.

That's an assumption I'd say. Another completely different possibility is that people suffering from schizophrenia in the developing world are generally not medicated. Anti-psychotic medications have nasty side effects and perhaps one undiscovered side effect is to turn a chronic relapsing disease into a permanent condition.

Re: Daddy isn’t coming back

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post #47

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Well, I have two options going forward: 1. Despite my bad experience, recommend suicide hotlines in the hopes that they work even though they didn't for me. 2. Recommend against suicide hotlines while explaining why and cautioning that my experience may or may not be representative of the norm. I'm going with #2 for the time being, yes.

You really can't think of any other options?

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Re: Daddy isn’t coming back

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Is your advice based on this single interaction?

Well, I have two options going forward: 1. Despite my bad experience, recommend suicide hotlines in the hopes that they work even though they didn't for me. 2. Recommend against suicide hotlines while explaining why and cautioning that my experience may or may not be representative of the norm. I'm going with #2 for the time being, yes.

Why do you feel recommending anything at all is required?

3. Share my experience, acknowledge this is a single data point, and withhold recommendation.

Re: Daddy isn’t coming back

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post #53

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Perhaps a good reason to keep elevating the socially approved age to reproduce? By the time you're in your 40s, you likely have a good idea of whether or not you're a stable enough mind to commit to the minimum 20 years required to uplift a new human adult.

Not sure our biology is great at that, but paradoxically as an almost 40 year old... I have the resources to support a bunch of children. Maybe the change to make is change the dynamic between men and women to introduce more age differences for child rearing. My parents fought about money all the time, but if they had delayed then they would have been better off. If they were better off then maybe my mom wouldn't hav…

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