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>no matter how much tech people like to pretend real world is meritocracy. We are talking highly technical people, what merit did OP not have? It sounded like OP had 2 decades of experience in his niche. I really dont care if I hire men, women, or any race. I really dont. As long as you show up and get the job done, wonderful. Many people disappoint and my current contractor is a white male, and I dont care.
1.) Meritocracy is much stronger claim then just lack of sexism or racism. 2.) I am saying that non-meritoratio properties gives an individual advantage over other individuals with the same merit. That does not mean that former is stupid or incapable. It just means that real world if more messy then we like to pretend.
A person in a niche has the requirements to get hired. They 'knew' someone from 20 years of working in this field.
At what point does it no longer become merit? They met the person at work, working on tech. Its not like they were born into it.
Also, I highly doubt 'same merit' is a thing in the tech world(especially among programmers). Programmers are rare and expensive, I doubt HR is choosy when it comes to these things. They have a difficult enough time filling positions.