Just after the original vote in 2016, Tusk admitted that the EU needed reform. Cameron (UK PM of the time) in 2015 went to the EU seeking reform, he was palmed of with some token concessions for the UK. 2016 we had a vote, since then it has been a cluster of chaos with every opportunity for personal limelight being sought over any sane approach.
May's deal wasn't a deal the UK was looking for on either side and in effect was a weaker form of what article 50 was and is. Yet also locked the UK into the EU with no say until a final trade deal that the EU approves was agreed. In short, a terrible deal as not only less say than as with article 50, but also given all the cards to the EU when it comes to making a deal. Sheer madness at any business level of thinking.
So what have we got, a divided kingdom instead of a united one. You can go down this side, that side avenue for eons, both sides did some epic flaws and lies.
SO how do we move on.
Firstly - cancel article 50, then reenact it again. That is within EU rules and avoids needing any yay or nay from EU.
Bit of a gaming the system, but at least resets the clock and allows time for second referendum. Equally it means going back to the start, but article 50 also allows early leaving.
Yes I agree now, a second referendum is needed; BUT it has to be done in a way that respects the first vote, otherwise you will still end up with a divided kingdom. You do this by combining the results of the first vote with the second vote. You allow again as with the first vote 16 year old to vote and have a say and the final result is what we do and that frankly has to be either.
1) Stay in the EU, but equally get fully behind it this time and fix what is wrong - start by a EU Health Service, that oversight has always irked many with the EU ethos to free access to basics, health being one. Curtly what the EU people want over a Army, least all those I know think so.
2) If we leave, we go WTO, plan for that and if the EU wants to sort a deal out, fine, we will run with a direction and anything else is good. Least can do trade deals with other countries and the whole focus upon the EU at the expense of ignoring those avenues is very blinkered.
But one aspect many overlook. The UK has on many votes in the EU history, singularly or instrumentally held the EU back from advancing, with financial services regulation and taxation being one area that stands out. This hampers how the EU has progressed and as it stands, and been detrimental. So putting the money aside what the UK pays in - has anybody really asked the question of the EU people - is the EU better of without the UK?
I would also add, that a second referendum should see all MP's remain neutral and they all focus on facts, over opinion. Also all avenues are equally explored from a worst to best case and presented to the public. The public love facts and a full picture, let them have that and vote without pontificating peer-pressure. Let it be fair.