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Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#51

Post by VLM » Mon, Sep 02, 2013, 9:46 PM UTC

aylons wrote: post #5

Am I the only one who feels the same in technical forums or even in Hacker News? Of course people will talk about things they know (and I come here to see these), but I can't help but have a feeling that I don't know enough, or that I can't keep with the technology and knowledge. Or worse: that I can't even get a good grasp of established tech, or that I am not smart enough. At deeper levels, this probably relate to…

"I can't help but have a feeling that I don't know enough"

Clicked on your profile, and you know Brazil (cool) FPGAs (cool) and EE stuff (cool). We have some common background (well, other than the Brazil thing).

Observationally those subjects do not come up very much in the stereotypical HN "yet another coffeescript release" stories, but when those topics do come up, the discussion is interesting.

I get a huge rush out of finding something new that I don't know anything about. Exactly like how I felt as a kid opening presents. Addictive.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#52

Post by valleyer » Mon, Sep 02, 2013, 9:47 PM UTC

smsm42 wrote: post #33

agumonkey wrote: post #15

Earlier quoted context omitted.

"""living in the experience, some just anxiously try to record the moment, which has ironically been lost with the vision of the future""" Louis CK illustrated something close : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cpAwhSSe7F0

That's why I practically stopped taking photos on vacations. I discovered I am replacing actual experiences with attempt to record the experience for some future myself, thus sacrificing my present enjoyment for the shadow of future recollection of the enjoyment that I didn't actually have because I was too busy trying to record it.

I think a better idea would be to just limit yourself to a small number of photos. It used to be that you were physically limited to 24 or 48 photos. Limit yourself to that. You'll appreciate having some photos of your vacation without spending the entire time documenting.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#53

Post by MacsHeadroom » Mon, Sep 02, 2013, 9:53 PM UTC

jessriedel wrote: post #41

zxcvvcxz wrote: post #36

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

> I don't want you posting a photo of us together, because that sends the signal to other girls that I'm not available when I would definitely consider myself so. That's not how girls work...

That's literally three opposite of how they work.

The more "unavailable" you look the more attractive you are to women.

It's called social proof, a demonstration that you've been vetted and determined of value by someone else.

Not posting pictures with women because you don't want to look unavailable is like not putting your current employment on your resume. It is the opposite of what you should do by all means.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#54

Post by MacsHeadroom » Mon, Sep 02, 2013, 9:54 PM UTC

jessriedel wrote: post #41

zxcvvcxz wrote: post #36

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

> I don't want you posting a photo of us together, because that sends the signal to other girls that I'm not available when I would definitely consider myself so. That's not how girls work...

That's literally three opposite of how they work.

The more "unavailable" you look the more attractive you are to women.

It's called social proof, a demonstration that you've been vetted and determined of value by someone else.

Not posting pictures with women because you don't want to look unavailable is like not putting your current employment on your resume. It is the opposite of what you should do by all means.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Post by [deleted] » Mon, Sep 02, 2013, 10:02 PM UTC

threeseed wrote: post #40

zxcvvcxz wrote: post #36

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

Facebook is merely a website for messaging and sharing photos. It is because of YOUR friends that you get the experience you do. So if you are having a poor experience then find better friends. Or remove them from your feed. Or setup groups so you can filter content better. But honestly the problem quite clearly is you. The immature use of the term 'gay' to be derogatory. The fact that you dismiss the uncool people i…

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Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#56

Post by [deleted] » Mon, Sep 02, 2013, 10:10 PM UTC

jessriedel wrote: post #41

zxcvvcxz wrote: post #36

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

> I don't want you posting a photo of us together, because that sends the signal to other girls that I'm not available when I would definitely consider myself so. That's not how girls work...

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Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Post by dpatrick86 » Mon, Sep 02, 2013, 10:12 PM UTC

zxcvvcxz wrote: post #36

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

> Feeling bad for less socially popular people. When the post an update and aren't getting any likes, I really want to click "like" to make them feel better, but then I remember that I'd look uncool for associating with them.

I'd drop this one in particular right in the "over concerned" category.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Post by [deleted] » Mon, Sep 02, 2013, 10:16 PM UTC

threeseed wrote: post #40

zxcvvcxz wrote: post #36

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

Facebook is merely a website for messaging and sharing photos. It is because of YOUR friends that you get the experience you do. So if you are having a poor experience then find better friends. Or remove them from your feed. Or setup groups so you can filter content better. But honestly the problem quite clearly is you. The immature use of the term 'gay' to be derogatory. The fact that you dismiss the uncool people i…

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Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Post by [deleted] » Mon, Sep 02, 2013, 10:20 PM UTC

zxcvvcxz wrote: post #36

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

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Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Post by mixmastamyk » Mon, Sep 02, 2013, 10:29 PM UTC

threeseed wrote: post #48

psychotik wrote: post #43

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It's easy to judge, isn't it? It takes some courage to be honest and introspective, regardless of how you may judge the poster. What you say about this person says as much about you as it does about them.

Can you show me at what point there was some actual evaluation of why he was doing the things he was ? Because sorry but I don't see anything courageous or introspective there. I just see a blind rant by somebody who clearly cares way too much about what his friends think.

He sounds young, and perhaps was a bit rude. In fact his second to last point was a turn-off for me. But, he made some valid points. I don't believe being excessively judgemental helps much.

I did like your advice to find better friends, and lose the others.