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Please don’t take it the wrong way - but from what you say I tend to sense some idealistic attitudes. The book doesn’t teach how to “be alpha and get laid”. The most important aspect of it is knowledge of opposite gender games. If you understand it - you will never ever be confused of relationships. If you don’t - you will be constantly confused. The truth, like God, doesn’t care if you disagree with it or not. It’s…

> The truth, like God, doesn’t care if you disagree with it or not. It’s just there, whether you like it or not, whether you believe in it or not. I think I understand this and I disagree. Maybe I am idealistic, but I’m ok with that. And there’s many situations where I’ll stay idealistic despite reality, but I think there are many valid outcomes while going my own way and not using anything in this book. It’s hard to…

Games exist regardless of whether we believe or not. There is nothing wrong in being idealistic - we all delude ourselves either temporarily or perpetually, on narrow or wide range of subject. If that helps to be content - by all means.

Evolutionary some creatures openly face adversities, some prefer to hide head in sand pretending everything is alright. There is no right or wrong answer here I guess, whatever gives peace of mind.

Re: Life Changing Books on Sex and Relationships

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Good sex extends beyond chemistry and self-pleasure. Good sex strengthens the bond between two people and makes them smile more at each other.

The Bible is my goto for sex and relationships. I am male and have been married for nearly 30 years. The bible teaches me to keep sex, and sex thoughts, for my wife. This is a very different culture from how I grew up. I think too many sexual partners messes with your head as you get older. You romanticise old connections when the going gets tough with your partner. Testing sexual compatibility is also a nonsense. I can confirm I was downright rubbish at sex. In a loving relationship you find a way and get there in the end.

The bible is also counter intuitive about relationships, love your neighbour and your enemy.

Many of the books and theories mentioned here will be long forgotten. There are still many like myself who lean on the ancient wisdom and teachings of Jesus.

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