Redirect the urge. Reaching for your phone? Instead of going to your go-to porn site, send a love note to your wife, go pick some flowers for her, or otherwise find a way to express desire for her.
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Re: Ask HN: I am addicted to Porn. Help me quit
#52fuck her in vr headsed/put tenga inside
you're not addicted, you just dont want to fuck her.
go to gym with her, communicate and ask her to do something new that she wants to try
Re: Ask HN: I am addicted to Porn. Help me quit
#53Different issue ( https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=20172172 ), but my heuristics might work for you as well. I'm not a therapist, so take it with a pinch of salt. 1) Edit the host file to block nsfw websites on your computer: https://github.com/4skinSkywalker/anti-porn-hosts-file . Note that the host file blocks whole websites (e.g. reddit.com), not specific pages (reddit.com/r/news/). 2) Download a web/app block…
I've used host files to reduce my news reading and found various browsers ignore the hosts file at timez... and Chrome is the worst.
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#54I'd actually suggest you consider telling your wife for a few reasons: 1) It's really unfair to go on letting her believe an untruth. She should know the reason you have not been intimate with her. She may even be relieved to know that what she thought was the issue, her getting old which is something that she can't change, wasn't actually the issue and the real issue can be changed. 2) You have been hiding this habi…
This is a bad idea, this information may seriously harm your wife's mental health.
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#55The use of psilocybin has been found to be extremely effective in helping to break serious addictions, including alcoholism. The exact mechanism through which this occurs isn't known, but it might be worth investigating - especially if you live in a country where clinical trials are taking place.
It should be stressed that doing psi can traumatize you and leave you with mental health issues.
Re: Ask HN: I am addicted to Porn. Help me quit
#56It is possible your wife has sexual interests that you are not aware of. Most gals ain't as Vanilla as they "pretend" they are . Just putting this out there.
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#57I don't think it's the porn. I think there are underlying issues that you haven't mentioned and might not even be aware of. My suggestion is that you start by not buying into the addiction narrative. Instead of telling yourself you're "addicted to porn", tell yourself that you're using porn as a coping mechanism, and that this is counterproductive. I'd also suggest seeing a therapist who uses cognitive-behavioral the…
I agree that probably there are underlying issues, and I enthusiastically recommend congnitive-behavioral therapy.
But I also think it's the porn, that it's chemical, just like alcohol. Sex releases oxytocin, which is a bonding agent with whatever you happen to be looking at.
> Whatever you do, avoid twelve-step programs. There's almost no evidence for their efficacy, and the success rate is no more than %10.
I would say that every member of AA who has been sober for years is evidence for the efficacy. And if the success rate is around 10%, that is unsurprising, given that attendance is voluntary and they are struggling against a very strong feeling.
Re: Ask HN: I am addicted to Porn. Help me quit
#58I'd actually suggest you consider telling your wife for a few reasons: 1) It's really unfair to go on letting her believe an untruth. She should know the reason you have not been intimate with her. She may even be relieved to know that what she thought was the issue, her getting old which is something that she can't change, wasn't actually the issue and the real issue can be changed. 2) You have been hiding this habi…
don't follow this advice^
Re: Ask HN: I am addicted to Porn. Help me quit
#59Who said it is wrong to watch porn? You won't be attracted to Her physically all your life, get over it.