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Marriage turns genius off like a tap.

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Re: Marriage turns genius off like a tap.

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Post by huherto »

jsjenkins168 wrote: post #6
ge wrote: post #5

Will divorce restore the genius, or is it irreversible?

According to the findings in the paper: Yes, it will to at least some degree. Testosterone increases after a divorce and therefore so does competitive effort and overall productivity (Genius + Effort = Productivity)

I think it does. I am divorced, therefore I still have to compete for the babes. As a result, I am in better shape than most guys my age. I also must be (somewhat) successful. The most successful you are the better babes you can get. I know is a somewhat cynical position but I think sex is an important motivator.

Re: Marriage turns genius off like a tap.

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Post by huherto »

malkia wrote: post #9

Seems like a good material of the Divorce Magazine (www.divorcemag.com)... Now what the hell is that... The other I walk in the BestBuy and see this free magazine, fuckin divorce lawyers and shit... And fuck the geniuses life! My wife born me a beautiful son, he's already 45 days, the hell with geniuses and their lives...

Why the downmodes? malkia is just so happy about his new son that everything else (including being a genius) seems unimportant.

Re: Marriage turns genius off like a tap.

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Post by randomhack »

nkohari wrote: post #30
ivankirigin wrote: post #10

My startup cofounder is my wife. Things are going splendidly. Generalizations are pretty useless in making decisions for your own life.

I'm also working on a startup with my wife as cofounder. We haven't launched yet, but her skillset is a fantastic complement to mine. I'm a very strategic thinker, whereas she's a great tactician and good at organization. She's also brilliant (Ph.D. student in I/O psychology), which is one of the reasons I married her. :) I think that most couples aren't capable of running a business together, but I also think we're…

uhh .. what is I/O psychology? maybe there is some obvious abbreviation that I am missing. but I/O .. well to a programmer that is always input-output and I am having a hard time thinking about what psychology might be involved in reading/writing to disks for instance.

Re: Marriage turns genius off like a tap.

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Post by icey »

It seems to me like this result would be true for anything a person tries to do that requires a significant amount of time investment.

For instance, I'd like to see this same study on people who have discovered Warcraft or the like.

Re: Marriage turns genius off like a tap.

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Post by imsteve »

albertcardona wrote: post #49
imsteve wrote: post #15

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Exact same here. Except in my case, she wins more often than not. She has her ways of making me do things.... Many nights I have stayed awake, looking wantingly at my computer across the room while I hold her, asleep in my arms. No, and there seems to be no reasoning with her on this issue.

Get into the habit of going to sleep with her, but waking up early. Very early. You don't need more than 4-5 hours of sleep, even if you think so. Plus the early hours of the morning (4 o'clock onward) are silent, cool, and your brain is fastest after resting. Best creative hours.

Doesn't seem workable to me. I can't get into the zone as easily when I first wake up.

And yes, I do need more than 4-5 hours when I do it every single day, and I'll be working all day too.

Re: Marriage turns genius off like a tap.

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Post by mynameishere »

xirium wrote: post #14

Marriage doesn't only stop scientific genius. It also stops musical genius. A good example would be The Beatles. Consider them like a start-up. They had a phenomenally productive phase but it stopped after they got married. This could be because the number of decision makers grew and the number of relationships grew even more.

I know this is an old thread, but Bach, Mozart, Debussy, Wagner, Rachmaninov, and Richard Strauss (off the top of my head) were all married.

Re: Marriage turns genius off like a tap.

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Post by dmm »

mynameishere wrote: post #57
xirium wrote: post #14

Marriage doesn't only stop scientific genius. It also stops musical genius. A good example would be The Beatles. Consider them like a start-up. They had a phenomenally productive phase but it stopped after they got married. This could be because the number of decision makers grew and the number of relationships grew even more.

I know this is an old thread, but Bach, Mozart, Debussy, Wagner, Rachmaninov, and Richard Strauss (off the top of my head) were all married.

Bach also fathered 20 children.

Re: Marriage turns genius off like a tap.

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Post by tbourdon »

It's all about time, time, time. I'm not suggesting there aren't extremes at both ends of the intelligence spectrum. But for the bulk of us in the middle of the curve, it all comes down to time. The problem is society pulls for our time on one end and family pulls for our time on the other. Unless your independently wealthy you can't be uber effective at both. I've actually known a number of men who have tried to advance there careers or get advanced degrees after they were married and had children only to end up getting divorced. I'm not advocating one path as superior to the other but having a family myself I know something has to give. Over time I've learned to value my accomplishments as a husband and father over those of intellect and career.

Re: Marriage turns genius off like a tap.

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Post by pchristensen »

tbourdon wrote: post #59

It's all about time, time, time. I'm not suggesting there aren't extremes at both ends of the intelligence spectrum. But for the bulk of us in the middle of the curve, it all comes down to time. The problem is society pulls for our time on one end and family pulls for our time on the other. Unless your independently wealthy you can't be uber effective at both. I've actually known a number of men who have tried to adv…

Ditto. You couldn't develop much of a career in a couple hours a day, so why expect to be successful at a family with the same minimal contribution? It's about balance.
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