> First, he withheld the amount of capital gains, so everyone who initially responded naturally assumed it was under $500k, which is true of 99.9% of transactions. That was very misleading information to omit.
Secondly, he complained about broker fees, but it isn't required to sell a house using a broker by any stretch. Just do FSBO if you think the 3% cut (probably less) isn't worth it. And 3% isn't much at all when your already expensive house just went up over 100% in value. Facile and disingenuous.
There's nothing misleading about that. He didn't mislead you. You misled you.
> Pretending that he and his wife are "trapped" in his house and "can't afford to sell" makes it sound like a horrific and dire situation. Which is completely misleading, he and his wife are quite wealthy and could do anything they wanted. They are pretty much the opposite of "trapped."
You don't really understand money, it seems like. The fact that you have equity in the home you live in doesn't mean you can "do anything you want". I already explained why this is so.
> They bought their house for something like $600k and now it's probably worth $1.3M. They pay 20% taxes on the $200k, so $40k and they lose 3% if they use a broker. That's another $40k, so $80k total. Let's make it an even $100k. So they have $1.2M to throw around, subtract $500k to pay off the existing mortgage, that's $700k free and clear.
$700k is a hell of a down-payment, even in the ritziest areas of Marin. Buy whatever you want.
700k is indeed a great down payment. But you have no idea what their income stream is like. If they aren't making a large income, they won't be able to afford their mortgage payments if they need to buy a house in an expensive area like SF. What he means by 'trapped' is that they have theoretically made all this money, but the money is of no actual use to them. And he is completely correct.
> I own a restaurant in norcal and have an employee whose room share / rental house burned in the recent fires. He goes to SRJC, doesn't have any family in the area, had no rental insurance, makes $12 an hour and no savings.
THAT's a dire situation, and considering I know people in situations like that, OP's framing of his (extremely cushy) situation as "I can't afford X!" is pretty disgusting to me.
Gee, it does indeed sound dire. Maybe you should pay your employees more rather than yelling at people on the internet for being insensitive about money? Seems you're in a position to actually do something about that situation. But you won't. And there's a very good reason you won't: because it's bad business. The economics don't make sense for you to do that. Just like the economics of the OP's situation don't make him wealthy. Absolute values are irrelevant, it's the equilibrium that matters.
And secondly, making silly statements like "THATS NOT DIRE THIS IS DIRE" is absurd. Almost everyone posting here lives in a first world country. There are infinitely 'more dire' situations out there than any of us are in, and playing this childish 'no true scotsman' game is a waste of time.