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It sounds like your previous purpose was making/saving enough money to feel comfortable and secure. And now you are. So you need a new goal.
Personally I’d recommend carbon fixation and sequestration. Humanity is facing an existential crisis. And it’s an interesting area of technology in a rapidly developing field.
A lot of comments have said "stay in therapy" or "quit therapy", but my immediate reaction is that maybe you have the wrong (ineffective) therapist and need to switch . My spidey sense went up when you mentioned what "you told your therapist", full stop. I was at least expecting "what my therapist responded" or "what my therapist told me that didn't work". That really (spidey sense, no evidence really) implies that y…
The problem with therapists is that they never say what they are doing, what approach they are taking or what techniques they are applying. This makes them less trustworthy, imho.
I really think it’s simpler than that: find the closest therapist, do an eval session, and see if it fits. If not, try again with next closest. Personal referrals are good too.
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I am glad that you are in your early 20s and understand this fundamental life truth - I am in my mid-40s, met some friends this past weekend, friends since elementary school, some more successful than others, in the capitalist sense of the word, although all of us are pretty well grounded. One of my buddies, who had more fun than the rest of us was complaining how his 20's and early 30's were all about experiencing l…
"The grass is always greener" seems to be a fundamental human condition. Your friend wished he had focused on his career while the people who focused on their careers wished to have lived more experiences. Married people wished they were single to enjoy the freedom and live a simpler life. While single people wished they met a SO to be less lonely. People with stable high paying jobs like many developers, daydream ab…
> Married people wished they were single to enjoy the freedom and live a simpler life. While single people wished they met a SO to be less lonely.
What single people want is the option to not be single and to not be lonely. When people are married and wish to be single - it’s not that they wish to be lonely, it’s that they wish they could have more freedom. (This has little to do with marriage and more to do with other life choices. I know married people with more freedom than single people)
I think you’re oversimplifying things by ignoring the fact that people want both and not either/or. They want to be young and rich. They want to have their health and their wealth. They want to be single but not fucking lonely.
It’s really not that hard to understand when you don’t make false equivalencies and bullshit narratives.
I'm in my late 20s, but I noticed that people live as if they are forever. They spend half of their life working for survival, preparing and planning for their (!) future. Some people die in the process and never live to see that future, but some people reach that point and become aware of the finite time that just elapsed. Having physical needs met is trivial in our society. Everything beyond is self imposed sufferi…
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I am glad that you are in your early 20s and understand this fundamental life truth - I am in my mid-40s, met some friends this past weekend, friends since elementary school, some more successful than others, in the capitalist sense of the word, although all of us are pretty well grounded. One of my buddies, who had more fun than the rest of us was complaining how his 20's and early 30's were all about experiencing l…
"The grass is always greener" seems to be a fundamental human condition. Your friend wished he had focused on his career while the people who focused on their careers wished to have lived more experiences. Married people wished they were single to enjoy the freedom and live a simpler life. While single people wished they met a SO to be less lonely. People with stable high paying jobs like many developers, daydream ab…
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This is not a problem of therapy, but a question of meaning. We need meaning in live. And for a long time religion gave that. But we threw that out. We now try to get "profesional therapy help". But it hardly has any scientific backing, and no one but religion has been able (even though it fails often) been offer te give any deeper answer to the question to "whats the meaning of it all". The best solutions people lik…
>We need meaning in live. And for a long time religion gave that. But we threw that out. This is pretty much what Nietzsche was getting at in his often misunderstood quote about 'God is dead', which is actually part of a larger 'Parable of the Madman' - see here if you've never read it, it's pretty insightful IMO: http://www.historyguide.org/europe/madman.html
Not a therapist, but would probably switch my life with yours in a second. I am the same age as you, in tech in a third world country and working two jobs and eighty hours a week to afford a good future for my kids. I will have to probably keep doing so into my fifties to give them a good education. Bottom line, it might be a matter of perspective.