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What are top lessons you learned the hard way between age 20 to 30?
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#42Traveling, dating random people, etc. is mostly a waste of time. Invest time and effort finding the right partner and the right place to live early and build a life. “Chasing experiences” is mostly unfulfilling.
You tend to realize this after you've done this experiences. If you don't, you'd miss out something and somehow you will get it back later. I know of people who got married before 20 yo, been together for a decade, got kids an all and after that one of the partner walked away because "I'm missing something out, I want find myself". Traveling is a way to learn new culture and see things with a different lens so I'd de…
because "I'm missing something out, I want find myself".
This just comes from the media and consumer capitalism. A century ago, the idea that you should blow up your family to go “find yourself” in a series of experiences would be seen as laughable.
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#43Earlier quoted context omitted.
You tend to realize this after you've done this experiences. If you don't, you'd miss out something and somehow you will get it back later. I know of people who got married before 20 yo, been together for a decade, got kids an all and after that one of the partner walked away because "I'm missing something out, I want find myself". Traveling is a way to learn new culture and see things with a different lens so I'd de…
because "I'm missing something out, I want find myself". This just comes from the media and consumer capitalism. A century ago, the idea that you should blow up your family to go “find yourself” in a series of experiences would be seen as laughable.
Agreed, but unfortunately is the sad reality. And social media didn't help either my friend
Re: What are top lessons you learned the hard way between age 20 to 30?
#44* Do not tie your identity / self-respect to your job (or) interviews
* Learn to cut through bull-shit stuff at work. These are mostly to increase employee retention(targeting juniors) (or) free marketing/branding with our time.
* Moderation, in everything! Living life as a pleasure chasing ride is tiring. Self-restraint to experience happiness in day-to-day stuff is sustainable.
Re: What are top lessons you learned the hard way between age 20 to 30?
#45- Finding a life partner can be really hard for some (and that some might include you). Ain't going to happen for some of us.
- You'll become more self-aware over time (what you really want out of different parts of life) but can take some time to get there.
- There is a lot to learn, and college will only provide a fraction it. The rest is up to you, and your life will reflect it. How to dress well, cook, stay healthy, establish relationships, think deeply and logically, overcoming your weaknesses, and more.