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The fact that this comment was downvoted with no reply is an excellent example of the unfriendliness I'm describing.
Thanks for your kind words, I'm glad I'm not the only one that's seeing this problem. I did get lots of upvotes for a comment on the "post your typical HN headline" thread a year ago, to which I sarcastically replied "Why we have a gender problem in tech [flagged]". So at least a proportion of HN users care about this. I'm not even a feminist; in fact I'm vehemently in favor of equal treatment and opportunities but a…
And yes, it is incredibly annoying. I would very much prefer to be talking about dependencies and package (mis)management or whatever. If the gender equality issues would go away I would be quite glad to never mention them again.