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What about something like Google Jamboard?
All of those tools are just awkward to use compared to a whiteboard.
My Japanese teacher did that and it actually worked out much better than I expected.
But I still answered yes. I was always prone to anxiety and depression, but Corona is fucking me up.
I’m trying to resume my normal life because getting sick is frankly a much better alternative than whatever this is.
Reminder: winter is coming[0] & days are shorter so take care of yourselves pls --- I believe depression is a spectrum so although I'm not depressed, I'm also not not depressed. Right now I'm in a good place and I accredit this to a few things I did this past week: - attended multiple virtual events (2 chat-based, 1 video) - caught up with 2 friends via phone/video call - went apartment hunting yesterday. Going outsi…
Anyone who thinks they even might have SAD should get a daylight lamp. LEDs are so cheap. You want at least 100W of real power draw, 5000-6500K color temp. You want em about 2-3 feet away, about 45° off-axis to minimize glare and maximize activation of intrinsically photosensitive retinal ganglion cells (ipRGCs). I keep mine on a cheap tripod behind my desk. I have some LED floodlights, flat panels with a mounting br…
Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…
> My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday This is something I'll never understand. How can someone be with another person for so long and be able to end up things in such drastic manner (assuming there wasn't any toxicity in the relationship)? I mean, if you hadn't any idea that this could happen then did your partner never try to fix whatever problem you had before taking that decision?
That's a big assumption. Maybe it's me, but when I look around, I see a lot of hidden tensions in people who've been together for a long time. In most cases, I'd say it borders toxicity. Relationships are tough.
IMO what predicts that people stay together is that they're capable of navigating it, it doesn't even matter if the navigation is unhealthy (i.e. like some of my family members, they'll stay together until death, but there are some painful sacrifices both parties are making).
Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…
If I may suggest something... Everybody hurts from time to time, hardships are part of life. In situations like this it's important to focus on things you can control instead of being sad about things you can't control. You might consider that now you life is again a blank canvas, and you can rebuild it. Everything's in discussion again, you're not encumbered by a relationship, the possibilities are endless! Your des…
Still, there was this time when I had nothing but a bicycle with four panniers of things for several months, wasn't sure where I'd sleep next, had to withstand cold and rain, and it was easily the singular best experience of my life. I'm not in a situation to repeat that now. Also I fear I wouldn't have the right mindset to repeat that - I've become lazy and complacent.
I was miserable before it was cool. Before the pandemic, I had a development job in the neighboring city. I'd take a 2 hour commute each way, and when I got home, I'd immediately collapse, sleep, wake up, and head right back to work. I didn't check my phone, my voicemail, my email, or call anyone. Just sleep. I rarely ate. I listened to a lot of death metal during that time. The pandemic hit, and I lost my job, then…
I don't mean to attack you, but why wouldn't you just move closer? Your weekly commute time multiplied by your hourly salary is likely significantly more than the increased rent, no matter where you lived. I've never understood why people make those choices.
I'm fighting every day to keep the depression at bay. I've been through the same thing as every one else this year, plus my sister took her on life in March and my startup that was flying in February, has been hammered by the pandemic. I felt like I was about to slide back into depression in May. I needed something that I could accomplish that was completely within my control. I decided to start lifting weights. It h…
How can you start a gym hobby during quarantine? Haven't been to a gym in 8 months even though I still pay my pricy membership just to support them.
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Nobody knows me on here, so I'll have to keep it that way after I post this. Get professional help. A combination of COVID-19, a high paying/high stress consulting job, and a history OCD related stress & paranoia pushed me into a VERY bad place. I was considering suicide. I didn't go outside for weeks if I could avoid it. I'd go 3-4 days w/o a shower (out of character for me). I started subconsciously punishing mysel…
Is drinking water to not feel hungry an eating disorder thing? I've used that for years when I feel like I've eaten too much.
That's why I got a mild depression, my view of the world was not suited for the switch from fresh EU grad to working person (long story short: no FAANG interviews, and the one that I did clear at an SF startup later said "not enough experience, good problem solving skills though").
So I got a lot of jealousy/envy to my American counter parts when looking for a job. Combine that with not finding a job for 12 months, because of FAANG expectations (I just wanted a shot, never got one at FAANG, it used to feel really painful as I worked 8 years to get all qualifications -- CS bachelor/master, TA stuff, professional software dev stuff -- but now I'm fine with it). It weighed me down. Some people on HN offered referrals, but I always doubted on cashing them in, because I want to feel super certain, which I never do.
Ironically, I got a job during COVID (May 2020). The job offer was a mediocre one, but a job is a job, especially after a 12 month search. My contract didn't get extended though (I was offered a demotion to a junior role, I didn't take it, IMO I'm not a culture fit), but it doesn't matter. The job gave me perspective, it pulled me out of my mild depression (along with some self-applied CBT, meditation, identifying my cognitive distortions, etc.).
I have an amazing runway, so I'm probably going to do a lot of side projects. I've always wanted to do it and it's hard to give yourself permission for it, because the risk is insane. Or at least, that's how it feels now. Survivorship bias, or lack of it, will tell whether it was insane ;-)
I'm not cut out to be an employee. I'm too interdisciplinary and want to stay that way (otherwise I'm going to have some psychological/emotional issues). I might be an amazing early employee fit for certain companies, but Dutch startups aren't really that entrepreneurial. Which is another part how my mental model doesn't fit the real world. As a Dutchie, I'm too Americanized while not being an American citizen. And I'm noticing some strong psychological issues (and benefits) with that.
So yea, this story goes to show that in my case it was a mix of having a wrong view of the world, checking expectations and learning to not compare myself to others as that gave me chronic stress.
I hope it helps someone. If you identify with it and want to talk about your situation, feel free to email me.
I'm fighting every day to keep the depression at bay. I've been through the same thing as every one else this year, plus my sister took her on life in March and my startup that was flying in February, has been hammered by the pandemic. I felt like I was about to slide back into depression in May. I needed something that I could accomplish that was completely within my control. I decided to start lifting weights. It h…
+1 to compound weightlifting (Barbell squats, deadlifts, bench press, military press) have done more to help me manage my mental health than any other avenue. 45 mins per day, 3-4 days a week and life just feels brighter. Keep it simple, https://stronglifts.com/5x5/