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Re: Ask HN: I was let go from a company again, I'm really depressed

#31

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Have you always had this issue, or only recently? Being burned out or overstressed can cause these symptoms.

I could get work done, don't get me wrong, it's just that it does takes me more time to complete than other developers. Sometimes I could do them faster than others. It depends. I also believe my problem could be discipline. I usually work during the night, sometimes in the morning. I choose the night because it's less distraction, but then I distract myself with reddit or IRC, and I get little done. I remember havin…

I have to compensate for ADHD, which may or may not be your issue, but it sounds similar.

Few things:

1) Sleep on a regular schedule. Set a "go to bed" alarm. Stick to it. Makes a huge difference.

2) Exercise, even if just taking brisk walks. It directly affects concentration/attention for the rest of your day. That's fairly well-supported by studies/literature.

3) Eat right. Be careful about caffeine and sugar, as the crashes will probably hit you harder than most.

4) In general, get on a schedule. Rhythm is the key.

As far as productivity:

1) Underpromise, overdeliver. This is hugely important. If you know you're not as efficient as you want to be you have to stop telling people what they want to hear and start telling them something more accurate. Even if you were ideal, we usually underestimate software tasks.

2) Look into Pomodoro or some other interval work rhythm method. It makes it OK to take breaks by regimenting them some.

3) Use a Todo list. Try to get one impactful thing (or chunk of thing) done each day at a minimum. Look up "Big Rocks" or "Zen to Done" on Google for some good tips there.

3) Find a coach. There are ADHD and productivity coaches out there that specialize in this stuff.

4) If you can't find a coach, at least find a mentor.

5) Go talk to a doctor. You sound like you have issues to actually address. If yours are like mine, meds help. You probably also need to learn some good habits though--there's no magic solution.

You also need to work on making yourself happier and regaining your own trust back. You're way too down on yourself, and you've actually written yourself off as inherently problematic. Objectivity is good, but it can also be how you get defeated before you start.

You actually sound like I did when I didn't feel like I could even be accountable to myself. Your first challenge is to get a grip on how you work and make yourself OK with it while you get better. Everyone's different, and the important thing is to accommodate yourself effectively, not to be perfect. But first, start making yourself happy. One accomplishment a day is a good step towards that.

Last thing:

I listed a lot of stuff. Don't try to do it all at once. You'll flop hard. But start working towards it.

Since you're having work issues in particular, I'd look at sleep, Todo lists, and Pomodoro as some of the first things you try.

Re: Ask HN: I was let go from a company again, I'm really depressed

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What client goals are you not meeting?

I don't know, they tend to be vague, but performance comes to mind. They sent me this email today which is really vague: "Given the urgency of the project, and the communication problems, I don't think this is a good first Company project for you. I removed you from the project. So I can make sure you're put in a better position, what's the ideal project for you?"

Can you say a little more about the communication problems? Problems in communication can exacerbate any other problems, to the point that people would rather not work with you than sort out the issues. Clear communication is a requirement before any other issue can be addressed.

Re: Ask HN: I was let go from a company again, I'm really depressed

#33

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I could get work done, don't get me wrong, it's just that it does takes me more time to complete than other developers. Sometimes I could do them faster than others. It depends. I also believe my problem could be discipline. I usually work during the night, sometimes in the morning. I choose the night because it's less distraction, but then I distract myself with reddit or IRC, and I get little done. I remember havin…

I have to compensate for ADHD, which may or may not be your issue, but it sounds similar. Few things: 1) Sleep on a regular schedule. Set a "go to bed" alarm. Stick to it. Makes a huge difference. 2) Exercise, even if just taking brisk walks. It directly affects concentration/attention for the rest of your day. That's fairly well-supported by studies/literature. 3) Eat right. Be careful about caffeine and sugar, as t…

That all sounds like excellent advice. I don't have ADHD myself, but I use a lot of those techniques to make myself more productive.

A few other suggestions:

- Take a bit of a break from finding work, to let yourself clear your head and destress.

- You could possibly look into getting some other type of work , and code in your spare time. Perhaps you're just getting bored and burned out with working on boring projects, and working on your own stuff might make you more productive and creative.

Re: Ask HN: I was let go from a company again, I'm really depressed

#34

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I don't know, they tend to be vague, but performance comes to mind. They sent me this email today which is really vague: "Given the urgency of the project, and the communication problems, I don't think this is a good first Company project for you. I removed you from the project. So I can make sure you're put in a better position, what's the ideal project for you?"

Why did they send this to you over email? Are you in a separate time zone, deaf or something else? Seems like it would be an odd thing to discuss over email.

FWIW I've worked in places where this would be standard to communicate over email, particularly if it's not that big of a deal (as in, we have plenty of other projects).

We don't really know the details of how the rejection even took place--maybe he asked for it that project, maybe he was on it and performed poorly, etc.

Re: Ask HN: I was let go from a company again, I'm really depressed

#35

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I could get work done, don't get me wrong, it's just that it does takes me more time to complete than other developers. Sometimes I could do them faster than others. It depends. I also believe my problem could be discipline. I usually work during the night, sometimes in the morning. I choose the night because it's less distraction, but then I distract myself with reddit or IRC, and I get little done. I remember havin…

I have to compensate for ADHD, which may or may not be your issue, but it sounds similar. Few things: 1) Sleep on a regular schedule. Set a "go to bed" alarm. Stick to it. Makes a huge difference. 2) Exercise, even if just taking brisk walks. It directly affects concentration/attention for the rest of your day. That's fairly well-supported by studies/literature. 3) Eat right. Be careful about caffeine and sugar, as t…

"Be careful about caffeine and sugar, as the crashes will probably hit you harder than most"

What do you mean with this exactly?

Re: Ask HN: I was let go from a company again, I'm really depressed

#36

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I have to compensate for ADHD, which may or may not be your issue, but it sounds similar. Few things: 1) Sleep on a regular schedule. Set a "go to bed" alarm. Stick to it. Makes a huge difference. 2) Exercise, even if just taking brisk walks. It directly affects concentration/attention for the rest of your day. That's fairly well-supported by studies/literature. 3) Eat right. Be careful about caffeine and sugar, as t…

"Be careful about caffeine and sugar, as the crashes will probably hit you harder than most" What do you mean with this exactly?

Sorry for the late reply.

I mean that caffeine and sugar both have an energy upswing and an energy downswing associated with them. If you're already having issues with motivation, maybe even with lethargy, the downswing will potentially take you from minimally functional to useless. Any sleep or nutrition problems will also exaggerate this effect.

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