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Always Talk to Strangers
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Re: Always Talk to Strangers
#32Sounds good. Step 0: overcome social anxiety and general awkwardness. Edit: to make this comment a little less pithy, I will say that I've ordered 'What to Talk About', and it has lessened the looming daemon of small talk...somewhat. ( http://www.amazon.com/What-Talk-About-Cocktail-Elevator/dp/1... )
ahmadss, your reply to this is dead. Mods, why was the comment about rejection therapy killed? It's a very popular and highly relevant game. And the poster has 1000+ karma; they don't seem like a spammer. I couldn't see anything objectionable about the comment.
hmm - that's weird. wonder why. maybe it was the way i formatted my response and inserted links? mods - would love an explanation, if possible.
Re: Always Talk to Strangers
#33Sounds good. Step 0: overcome social anxiety and general awkwardness. Edit: to make this comment a little less pithy, I will say that I've ordered 'What to Talk About', and it has lessened the looming daemon of small talk...somewhat. ( http://www.amazon.com/What-Talk-About-Cocktail-Elevator/dp/1... )
Hi Stranger. I noticed that this book isn't all that well reviewed (3.5/5), and that Amazon's 'Customers Who Bought This Item Also Bought' includes a few higher-rated titles. Can you say a word or two on what you liked about this one?
The book definitely has some huge problems, but it helped to 'push me out of the gate' by giving actual, concrete things to say, rather than general approaches. I find that once the conversation gets rolling, I'm okay. It's probably best in conjunction with another book.
Re: Always Talk to Strangers
#34Earlier quoted context omitted.
Frequenting the bar scene, for those so inclined, is the fast track to this: "getting comfortable and feeling like every interaction with another human won't make or break you."
This is true, but it's a higher hurdle. I went to bars through college, but made no progress socially. To learn, you need to be able to try a lot, in a consistent environment, and get feedback. Bars made it difficult to try small things, and they're a complex environment where you can't repeat the same interaction so easily. Whereas, saying "hi" to a stranger is never that different, in terms of how it goes initially…
According to Richard Feynman, you just have to put in the time and be patient. (The Las Vegas chapter of Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman.)
Re: Always Talk to Strangers
#35Earlier quoted context omitted.
ahmadss, your reply to this is dead. Mods, why was the comment about rejection therapy killed? It's a very popular and highly relevant game. And the poster has 1000+ karma; they don't seem like a spammer. I couldn't see anything objectionable about the comment.
hmm - that's weird. wonder why. maybe it was the way i formatted my response and inserted links? mods - would love an explanation, if possible.
This one is live, btw. You're not shadowbanned.